(Closed) Wedding party dilemma (LONG.. but bear with me! )

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I have a big family too and can totally relate. My FI doesn’t have as big of a family as me and thinks it means that ALL of his cousins should be involved to match mine. We finally decided that we are just going to have the important people to us be involved and hope people will understand. The good thing about a big family is that there will be plenty of other weddings for others to get a chance to participate in. As to your question, here are some ideas: (Keep in mind that I am Catholic so it lends more opportunities for participation)

-flower girl(s). You can definitely have more than one. An older girl with the 2 year old might help the 2 year old make it down the aisle! There have been lots of pics online with lots of flower girls and ring bearers that are totally cute!

-programs, readings

-Catholic stuff: petitions, offertory gifts, readings

-you can give some a disposable camera and tell them they are unofficial picture takers…that might be a stretch though

Hope this helps!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@TxBride2B:  I would include the people you feel closest with and who you want to stand up.  Unfortunately everyone you’re close/friends/family with cannot be in wedding parties, which is why we have people (normally many of them!) attend as guests! 🙂 

Also, another two cents from me (and I apologize if I’m being out of line), but I would be careful how much you let FMIL dictate important decisions for your wedding that should be YOURS and YOUR FI’s, such as in the wedding party.  I understand you want to keep the peace with her and the family, but this is not her wedding and eventually I can see your needs and wants suffering if she takes over.  This will make the planning sad and stressful and it should be more fun and exciting!

Good luck!!

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