(Closed) Wedding party dropping like flies… with 4 weeks to go. :(

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

🙁 That really, really stinks. I am so sorry that it’s happening, because really there’s no excuse for it! Grown men should NOT act like that. Not okay. *hugs*

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh my goodness Layla.  I am so sorry this stuff is happening.

Just hugs.  Nothing but hugs.  Does he have brothers or do you who could stand in the wedding?

If no groomsmen or BM, what I’d do is have the bridesmaids walk out and then be seated on the front row after they walk out and have your MOH and your FI’s dad (if he can) be the BM.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Honestly, if I were your FI, I would say something to this guy (if he hasn’t already)  Along the lines of, “You said you were going to be in my wedding as a groomsman.  This entails coming to help out, taking pictures, and then being there for the wedding.  You’re going to have to have your kid’s birthday on Friday, or after church Sunday.  Sorry, but these plans were made first.”

Sometimes I seriously wonder how some people were raised to behave.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

AW 🙁 I’m really sorry thats awful. I hate grown adults that still have commitment  issues! Grow up!

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

what a douche… sorry but that’s alll i can say. i liked belle’s suggestion of them sitting on the front row as well…

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Boo! Wow that blows! So Sorry! To think that his only friend left & his wife, won’t budge because of a birthday party…wow…

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Laylabelle: Totally unacceptable.  Also unacceptable on his wife’s part.  Not to be sexist, but us wives/ladies (should) know the etiquette around this kind of stuff.  I would be thinking to myself, “Wow, my husband is in a wedding on Saturday.  I should not be throwing my daughter’s birthday on this day because my husband will be busy.”

Some people need to grow a brain…and manners.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Oh my god, I’m so, so sorry! As a bride who had two groomsmen drop out for being overall immature and mean also, and also had a BM drop out a week before the wedding, I can honestly attest  to what you’re going through. It was awful and made me sick to my stomach. But after a few days, I realized that it all didn’t matter. As long as the people who really care about you two show up, that’s all you can ask for, right? We started with three and four on each side, and ended up with two each, and it was fine.

Ugh, I’M even TO’d at your wedding party. Gheesh!

I also agree with Bella. Does your FI have some other men in his family that can step in, who already have suits or whatever? Like dad or an uncle? We almost had my FIs dad or my uncle step in, but we decided against it at the last minute because our numbers were even.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Unbelievable!  I can’t imagine how frustrated and angry you are.  It sucks when friends bail and I can’t believe they would do so at such an important moment.  Is there anyone else who could stand up with him?

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree with having a dad or uncle step in, as much as it sucks, that would at least help make him feel better to have his family pitch in. We were going to have to do this when we thought best man was getting deployed, his deployment was changed, so we are still good, but in the mean time we had his dad lined up to stand in for him.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I am so sorry Layla…that is very disappointing.  We’re kind of experiencing the same thing w/ my FI’s guys.  Two of them don’t see the need of showing up until a few hours before the wedding…it’s maddening how some people just don’t understand.

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