Post # 1
So, for any budding Emily Posts out there, is there a guide as to how much $$ we’re supposed to be spending on the wedding party? Is it a specific percentage of your budget? Does it vary based on how much you’re expecting them to spend (plane tix, hotels, dresses, etc.).
So, let’s say I’m having a US based destination wedding, not crazy over the top expensive. We got the BM dresses for a steal of under $100 (yay J. Crew Clearance!). I’m planning to give the girls Pashmina wraps (imported from Florence by me!) and we’re going to comp hair & makeup for all of them day of. On the other hand, my FI wants to get his guys an “experience gift” for the guys (some sort of adventurous experience on rehearsal dinner morning).
Is that enough? Do I need to be calculating percentages of my overall budget here?
Post # 3
I am planning on giving them a “main” gift, then getting something unique and different for each girl that they would personally enjoy, but it’s not really a percentage of my budget, it’s just an amount that FI and I both felt comfortable spending on our party.
I would talk to your FI and mutually decide on a general amount per person that you’re able to spend. It doesn’t have to be to the penny or anything that specific, but that way you’re getting comparable gifts. Maybe figure out how much you’re spending per girl, then ask your FI to figure out a gift for his guys that’s similar in price and value for his guys.
I think your girls would be blown away by getting a Pashima wrap, along with makeup and hair… plus their dresses were very, very reasonable! I’d be a happy bridesmaid!! 🙂
Post # 4
Oh… another idea that’s free and very personal…. write a letter to each girl individually telling them what they mean to you and thanking them for being a part of your day. I was in a wedding in January and the bride did this and I was very touched that she would take the time to do that.
Just another idea!! 🙂
Post # 5
Thanks. I appreciate it. Also appreciate hearing that there’s no $$ amount that I’m missing. I like the idea of the note!
Post # 6
i don’t think it’s important to think %.
You are being very reasonable about costs – if I was in your wedding party, i wouldn’t expect anything and would be happy about the bargain I’m already getting!
(I’m currently spending $300 for a BM dress which I’m annoyed about – this is without expensive makeup and hair which is also expected)
I think choose what you want to do, something simple like earrings or a voucher is ok, however a simple ‘thank you’ is sufficient too. good luck hun 🙂
Post # 7
Spend what you can reasonably afford without going into debt. What you are offering is very generous as is.