Wedding Party Help!!!

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who do I choose?
    Lady A! : (7 votes)
    58 %
    Lady B! : (0 votes)
    Lady C! : (0 votes)
    ALL THREE & have Groom increase his party! : (5 votes)
    42 %
  • Post # 2
    1202 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Can all your girls easily afford a destination wedding to Jamaica? Also, if you are only having 1 MOH, are you expecting her alone to organize a shower and/or bachelorette? These are some considerations.  

    Not to be mean, but brides often view this as a way to honour their closest friends…but the friends often view it as an expensive inconvenience and are relieved when they’re not chosen.  I’d only worry about friend D creating drama if you had 3 other bridesmaids while excluding her.      

    Post # 3
    1248 posts
    Bumble bee

    Do you know for sure that all of them would be able to make the destination wedding? That could be a way to rule them out. or do they not know details yet to be able to tell you either way?

    Post # 4
    598 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015 - Dreams Las Mareas - Costa Rica

    ShakenNotStirred:  i would ask my so to find two more do you have brother that could be in the wedding?

    Also, I am thinking about Jamaica as a DW also but im not finding any good deals.. please share.. 🙂

    Everything seems so pricey to me so far

    Post # 5
    1298 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    There’s no rule that says the bride and groom’s sides have to be even. Each of these girls seem like they are very important to you for good reasons (except for the last one). I say pick as many of them as you want! 

    I know with my own destination wedding, we had friends that said they were “definitely” coming, then as it got closer to invitation time, they had other life issues/events that prevented them from going. So the girls you ask as BM may say yes now, but may not be able to make it later, for reasons that may be out of their control. 

    So, I would advise to talk to your FI about what he thinks of having uneven bridal parties and see what you both agree on. If you both are ok with uneven numbers, maybe you can ask all of the girls, then if they can’t make it, they become “honorary” BM/MOH. instead of the other option which would be to pick one, then if for some reason she can’t be there, any of the other girls might feel like she was “backup” or “plan B”

    Post # 6
    576 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Uneven sides are totally okay, BTW. 🙂

    Post # 7
    2065 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I probably would pick best friend C simply because she is your oldest friend.  I was only able to pick 1 best friend to stand up in my wedding party as well.  I went with my oldest friend, who I adore.  Although there are friends that I’m closer to at the moment (though we are still close) she has been the one friend who has always been there for me throughout ALL my life.  Also, it was a bit of a safe choice.  I told everyone else that knew they would be considered that we were having a small party and I just couldn’t choose between anyone, and how I loved them all so much.  I definitely couldn’t pick one friend out of a group, and this friend wasn’t part of a big group, and was my oldest friend, and choosing for that reason didn’t hurt feelings.  I also made an effort to include all my friends on all the fun bridal party stuff (bachlorette party, rehearsal dinner, probably will even have them help me get ready).     

    Post # 8
    405 posts
    Helper bee

    I choose option 4) All three and tell the groom to have whoever he wants on his side.  If that is one person, fine.  If it is more people, fine.

    Post # 9
    455 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    ShakenNotStirred:  Uneven sides are fine. And you don’t have to have a MOH (I’m not).

    Post # 10
    6171 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    what is A, B, and C all have the same role and share it.  why does someone have to stand out if you can’t choose.

    DH and I had uneven sides, i had 3 girls and 1 guy, DH had 5 guys.

    it worked out fine and looked fine in pictures.


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