- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
My fiance and I want a small and intimate wedding. He has a small family, and was in the military and moved around a lot his whole life and never really got a chance to develop good guy friends (at least not that are around anymore). I on the other hand have a good sized group of girlfriends. We are at a loss of what to do with attendents. I tend to rush into things and sort of gave the impression that some of my friends would be bridesmaids. Now I’m scared our sides won’t be even at all.
My other issue is that one of my “bridesmaids” was a friend from high school, I had issues with her back then and recently she moved back here and we have reconnected. I thought things were fine, until it got to wedding stuff and she had issues with every single dress I liked, doesn’t like any of my ideas and doesn’t hide it. I don’t think that talking to her about it would change her attitude, it’s just her personality. Not that I want to get rid of her as a friend, but the thought of her helping me plan everything is stressing me out.
So I had this idea that I think would solve most of my problems but I want feedback because it isn’t really the “norm.” I am thinking of having one attendant on each side, but have the rest of my girl friends be some sort of “honorary bridesmaids.” Involve them in some of the planning, invite them to get ready with me, but let them all pick their own dresses (in my wedding colors), and reserve a row behind family for them to sit. They would be part of the party, but not SO involved with it, and not be standing up there so that my side isn’t too big. My question is, is this idea totally weird? I haven’t been to a lot of weddings, and I know It’s definitely not the norm, I just want to get some feedback before I make the call.