(Closed) Wedding party unevenness

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I definitely suggest NOT having another bridesmaid just to even things out… if there’s not someone that was like “well duh of course she’d be a bridesmaid!”, there’s probably a good reason ๐Ÿ™‚

This got a bit complicated for us too. I have 5. Fiance has 3 brothers, and then two different groups of friends with two good guy friends in each.  He couldn’t pick one pair of dudes over the other, or pick one dude from each group – without causing hurt feelings, and we both agreed 7 was too many. So the result is I have 5, and he has 3.  My two best friends who are also best friends to each other will walk down the aisle together…people might raise an eyebrow at first, but, haha, i REALLY dont care!!


It will be fine, promise. 

Post # 4
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We’re having uneven number of bridesmaids and groomsmen too.  I’m a very symetrical person who really wanted things even, but I’ve learned to deal with the unnevenness.  And a good photographer can help to make things look even/ symmetrical still.  We’re having 5 bridesmaids and 4 groomsmen (we originally had 5 groomsmen but one of FI’s brothers got deployed a few months ago and wanted to leave that space open for him). 

Post # 5
5479 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We’re having uneven sides as well… as much as I like symmetry, I like avoiding drama more ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We have 8 groomsmen and 4 bridesmaids, so I definitely think it’s ok though I understand that the lack of symmetry bothers you. Definitely speak with your photographer in advance and make sure s/he knows about this, and your concern, and hopefully s/he’ll come to the ceremony with some ideas about how to shoot photos in a way that de-emphasizes the uneven number.

Post # 7
326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We have 6 groomsmen and 5 bridesmaids…… I also like things to be even – hell, i even wanted only 4 bridesmaids because i like even numbers!  But we’re making it work!  Best Man is going to walk alone during the ceremony and be announced in to the reception with Maid/Matron of Honor.  My second bridesmaid will then be escorted into the reception by 2 groomsmen.  ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 8
12882 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I feel you on the symmetry thing…it’s a huge deal to me, and I couldn’t fathom not having symmetrical sides.  I’m really OCD like that.  Fiance and I figured out a number before we asked anyone so we were both on the same page (although I did have a bit of drama, but it all worked out!). 

Post # 9
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We had 7 groomsmen and 5 bridesmaids, because two dropped out. No one noticed at all, and we just had two guys double up with one girl and everything was fine. The girls walked down the aisle themselves, and they walked as couples, so it really made no difference. When I look back at my pictures, I never notice that the sides are uneven.

Post # 10
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

We’re having an uneven wedding party as well. I’m actually having each person walk down the aisle seperately, one at a time. So it will start with the first bridesmaid and end with a bridesmaid. Ive always wanted to have people walk down individually but when we realized the wedding party was going to be uneven, it just made all the more sense.

If you don’t like the look of an uneven wedding party in pictures, you could have them walk down and then sit in the front row instead of stand during the ceremony?

Post # 11
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@kswiftbride:  We orignally had 4 groomsmen, 4 bridesmaids. We now have 4 guys and 3 girls. It may look funny and I’m the same way (need things to match) but I’m not filling in a 4th girl just for numbers.. I want people in our wedding party that matter! So congrats on joining the uneven train! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

AHHH the symmetry thing makes me twitchy too!  We currently have 4 groomsmen and 3 bridesmaids.  I feel like it would be forced if I wanted to add another girl OR I have someone in mind but I would feel weird not having her husband as a groomsman because my fiance was in their wedding.  I think the pictures will look weird but other than that the rest of the time no one will care… right?

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