(Closed) Should the groom make initiative or the best man?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What should I do
    Wait for the groom contact my bf : (6 votes)
    21 %
    The best man should contact the groom : (21 votes)
    72 %
    I should send an email or call the groom : (2 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2589 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’d say your BF should, mainly because you don’t want to get to the last minute and find out he’s either out of the WP or doesn’t have a tux.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1104 posts
    Bumble bee

    The groom should have definitely been in touch by now, but your boyfriend needs to call him. Your boyfriend should also ask about the bachelor party – organising that tends to be the job of the best man and with only two months to go he should probably start thinking about it (assuming the groom wants a party).

    Post # 5
    Member
    8354 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I think your BF should have made some sort of attempt before now. He is the Best Man and should be planning a Bachelor party.

    Post # 7
    Member
    8354 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Your BF needs to contact him and ask him.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1079 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    The groom should have taken care of this, but in the interest of getting things done your BF should contact the groom. You should stay out of it. As best man, your BF should also be planning the bachelor party – that is his responsibility – or if not a party, at least going out for drinks or something.

    Post # 9
    Member
    5978 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Why is your BF so hesitant to contact the groom? I say he needs to call him and ask him what kind of bachelor party he wants or if they just want to hang low or whatever. And it’s 2 months before the wedding…he needs to get fitted for his tux! I would have your BF call to find out what’s going on. The groom could also be thinking, “I can’t believe BF hasn’t called me to even ask about the wedding…” So get him to call him!

    Post # 11
    Member
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    It seems like a lot of assumptions are being made here that could be cleared up by getting in contact. If the groom asked your BF to be the best man, then he should assume that he is. Additionally, he should really be getting in touch to see if there is anything that he should be doing.

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