- 4 years ago
- Wedding: January 2015
I am having a really really hard time picking my bridesmaids!! I know you guys don’t know all of the issues and factors going on for me, but I would love some advice!!
I have already picked my maid of honor- my FI’s sister. We have known each other for 8 years, she is really excited about the wedding, loves me and is a great planner. There hasn’t been any question in my mind that she would be my Maid/Matron of Honor.
That leaves the reast of the wedding party…
My Fiance has 2 best friends that were a really easy pick for him. He wants to make me happy so he said he could find people to fill his side to match mine. While this is very sweet I worry that this will make the day less special for him, so this makes me think that i should keep the number down.
The options (in no particular order):
1. My 3 vet school friends: I have known these ladies for 2 years now and have grown fairly close with them. We have a similar career in common and I think I will probably stay in contact with them in the future. I don’t know how I would spilt them up if I wanted only 1 or 2 of them.
2. My 2 highschool friends- I have known them since the 4th and 6th grades. We have had a tumultuous relationship, but have stayed in contact all these years, and one of them hooked my Fiance and I up.
3. My 2 college friends- one was my roomate and the other was in my major, I haven’t really stayed in contact with the roomate, but the course friend and I have gotten together several times since graduating- these girls both live far away.
4. My brother’s wife- I have been leaning towards this option because it will make a nice even 2. The issues are that there was some awkwardness between us during my brother and her wedding. They sent out an email telling people they got engaged to every family member but me. I wsn’t one of her bridesmaids, but I did go to her bachelorette party in Vegas. I got engaged just before her wedding and she didn’t congratulate or mention it (maybe she was just busy with her own wedding). Then there was an issue at the wedding because I had to sit in the secont to last row because noone saved me a seat (not necesarily her fault, but I was upset about it). She will be in my life in the future, I would like to have a good relationship with her, and maybe involving her in my wedding is a good way to do that. There is also the issue of the fact that if I have my FI’s sister and not my brother’s wife, she might be upset.
I know that the descision is up to me and that I should do whatever makes me happy, but I do care about other people’s feelings and want to make a good choice. I worry that with only having 2 bridesmaids I won’t get to do all of the fun things like getting ready.
Please give me some advice!