- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
More of a vent but, UGH!! Why is it so hard to please everyone and why should I in the first place? (Okay I’m a total people pleaser so I dont know why I’m venting)
Back Story – FI was in the Air Force for 6 years and lived in TX, for that reason, not many super close best friends here in Ohio. He felt bad asking someone he wasn’t absolutely life long close to to be in our wedding and pay all the money towards it. He only had 3 close guy friends he felt comfortable enough to ask to be in our wedding. I, on the other hand, had more than 10 I would have liked but cut it down to 4 for budget and numbers reasons.
Fast forward to now, FI has 2 older sisters (whom I love dearly and wanted to include but the 4 I already had on my side were absolute must haves) and we’ve been juggling with including his sisters as bridesmaids or as readers because 6 and 3 is too big of a seperation for us. Keep in mind, I haven’t officially asked anyone yet but my sister (MOH).
This past weekend his mom pulled my dear FI aside and blatently asked “Your sisters will be bridesmaids right?” Well FI got his back up (he’s a redhead and has all the Irish pride and temperment that comes with it) and since he HATES being told what to do or to do whats expected told his mom that no they wont be a part of the wedding. I could have killed him! One, we haven’t decided the final party yet and two I’m trying to make it work so they can be a part of the wedding party!!! Really, you would upset your parents by saying that! WHY SAY SOMETHING LIKE THAT?!?!?!?!?!
Today I get a phone call, at work, from my FFIL. I love his family but out of all of them I love his dad the best. He and I have the same personality…Laid back, quiet, keep emotions inside, please everybody, etc. He calls to basically ask me the same question b/c my FMIL has been in tears since this weekend over it. I assured him that YES his sisters will be bridesmaids (putting me at 6) and that FI and I have decided together to ask 2 of my best guy friends (they are my big brothers I never had – They’ve also become close with FI) to be groomsmen and represent both of us. That would give us 6 and 5. I guess my question is…is it accpetable to ask 2 of my male friends to stand on my FI side and be a part of my wedding? I had already decided to ask them to be Ushers but if we have 5 groomsmen the whole party can do that.
Sorry so long, I’ve just been an emotional wreck trying to please everyone and knowing that his family felt disappointed and upset KILLED me!