Post # 1
Okay, so. We’re getting married. Probably in a park, followed by a dinner. Both FI and I are really excited about it, although we are pretty relaxed in our expectations- it’s not really a big deal because we’ve already lived together, and feel married already. We are just really psyched to have friends and family around to have a quiet celebration.
That said. I still think it’s important to have a photographer.
We spoke to a photographer whom I like, and her prices are reasonable. Money isn’t really a huge issue for us, although we both want to keep costs down.
Issue: my FI thinks that we can get family and friends to take pics using their DSLR cameras, and to not worry about hiring a pro. I would rather have a pro worry about lighting and angles and editing afterwards. He feels like, ‘hey, if family friends do it (they are amateur photogs who take decent photos… they took some of our family when we all went on vacation together) then it’s $0!’ I feel like, ‘I don’t want to inconvenience family friends, money isn’t a huge issue (our families have both chipped in so we’ve paid a very minimal amount), and pictures last a life time!’
What do you guys think?
Post # 3
Def not friend or fam. These people are there to see your wedding and enjoy the day, don’t make them work for you. Plus what if they mess up, you don’t want this to hurt your relationship.
Go pro, no doubt.
Post # 4
Family and friends with a DSLR doesn’t mean anything. Hire the pro. No question.
Post # 5
Is he opposed totally or does he just lean toward not doing it?
Either way, I would do the photographer. If you can afford it, I think it’s best. You’ll get better photos AND, like you said, you won’t have to inconvenience your family and friends. I would feel stressed if I knew the bride/groom were relying on pics from me and other guests to get their wedding photos!
Post # 6
theres a huuuuuuuuuuuuge difference between a pro and someone who just has a nice camera
definitley worth hiring a pro.
Post # 7
@Double_rainbow: I thought the same thing (we already have a house together, lived together for years, etc), but my FMIL insisted on getting pro pics (which she helped pay for) so we got a photographer. I’m sooooo glad we did. I also really recommend doing an engagement and/or boudoir shoot before the wedding. I wasn’t planning on doing either of those, but the wedding package came with a choice of 2 extra shoots (engagement, bridal, boudoir).
The engagement shoot really let us get to know our photographer and tell her which shots we loved, and which ones we weren’t as fond of. Plus, because I was doing a boudoir shoot, it gave me a chance to be more comfortable around her which was really important. Now I have an awesome groom’s gift, and I know my wedding pictures will be fantastic. I’m the first girl in my family to have a western/US wedding (my family is Chinese), so I definitely want to be able to send some good photos of my day to my relatives in Asia. I’d say if money isn’t an issue, get the photographer.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Definitely a pro. My sister didn’t have a hired photog at her wedding – she also had several family members and friends who are good photographers. Well, there are some great pictures of the ceremony and of the couple right after the wedding… and then everyone started partying and having fun instead of taking pictures, so there are very few of the reception etc.
If you hire someone, then you don’t have to worry about any pictures missing. Your friends and family can supplement with their own shots, but they don’t have to worry about having a job to do rather than enjoying the wedding. Especially if the $ isn’t a big deal, it’s SO worth it! Just overrule your FI on this – I did too 🙂
Post # 9
I’ve handed $20,000 worth of the best camera gear on the planet to my husband before and he’s shot crap. A camera is just a camera. Hand me a solid gold microphone and I still can’t sing !
Post # 10
I ALWAYS say go for the pro.
Fifty years from now, you’re not gonna care how much they cost. You’re gonna care what they look like.
Post # 11
In order of what we’re spending money on, it’s:
Food is the most because well, that’s just how it worked out. We’re foodies, so are a lot of our guests. Thing is, as much all want to say that it’s OUR day, it’s not just about us. It’s about our families and friends coming together, and I know my parents will order a mini wedding album, his parents will want to order photos, and we’ll want to have an album too! His mom & I had a total bonding moment when she took out the wedding album from her wedding and we were looking over the old pictures and talking about their family. My parents got married at the courthouse, and my mom has said multiple times that she wishes she had real pictures from back then.
There’s another option too if you’re short on money – talk to your local colleges/tech schools. There’s plenty of photography majors out there looking to expand their portfolio. They should have enough material for you to look through and see if you like them, and they’ll work for cheap!
Post # 12
I don’t want to inconvenience family friends
This reason alone is why I wouldnt want family/friends taking the photos – they deserve to get to celebrate with you, too!
Post # 13
Photographer, hands down! I have heard of too many brides lament about cut off heads, poorly composed shots and Uncle Fred’s finger in the lens.
Post # 14
I’m really curious to your FI’s line of thinking – what makes people think that way? Photography is art. Just because you can hand a paintbrush to anyone, and by definition anyone can paint- doesn’t make them an artist. Cameras are just tools.
Post # 15
When we got engaged, we really wanted to have additional engagement pictures taken at our Alma Mater which is in another state. We had already found our wedding photographer but weren’t willing to pay for an additional session out of state.
We e-mailed a few photography professors asking if they knew of any students who would be willing to help us out in exchange for helping them build their portfolio (we paid them, too). Our pictures are our favorite!!! They are incredible and I almost wish they had been our wedding photographer.
Perhaps you could consider this as a less expensive option?
Post # 16
Thanks everybody for your feedback!
I showed my FI the results and he found the answers to be pre-tty convincing : P
I Believe we are going pro.