- 3 years ago
We have been planning our wedding, picked our venue, kept it at the bare minimum.. no fancy centerpieces just what comes with the venue cheapest version of food they offer, bare minium for friends inviting no kids doing our wedding on a sunday in december and it is still costing a lot of money. I showed my mom the centerpieces and she was quite quick to tell me how “junky” they are and I should do flowers (yea let me throw in that extra 800 for flower centerpieces or more) then my mom comes back and tells me I am insane for spending all this money on this wedding that weddings dont cost this much (we are estimating 14k for everything IF we decide to have an open bar for eevryone if not more like 11-12k) we live in california.. so prices are sort of high and we cant get away too far from the bay area because of my grandma, but I am at the point now where everyone wants to throw in their opinion and not offer help, and then judge me for spending “too much” (Sorry I am just upset and venting at this point so sorry if I am rambling and not making any sense) We have had a bad engagment from day, my mom seemed to care less about our engagment.. along with most of our friends.. then more friend of groom drama (my previous post about our engaged friend super messy drama ) to more family drama everything around us has overshadowed our engagment along with 6 other friends getting engaged the SAME month as us (I am so happy for them its not that I am worried about them over shawdoing me in the slight bit) but their families already all threw them engagment parties and they all set dates and are all on cloud 9 and I seem to be stuck in stress depressed mode. I dont know if I am just feeling like no one cares about ours.. because they sure dont show it. IT seems like when I ask peoples opinions they seem like I am just bothering them, (except my grandma and dad which they are the only reason I do not run off and elope) But I am at the point where I just want to cancel everything tell our BM and GM we are sorry we are just taking off to reno and getting married… Has anyone done that just canceled everything and got married? I have always DREAMED of a big beautiful wedding and im scared eloping I will regret.. thoughts opinions any simalair problems?