(Closed) Wedding Planner is TOO involved

posted 8 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
2682 posts
Sugar bee

I havent had this problem, but it does seem like she is just doing her job.  For the “everything package” it usually means they can create the wedding and look for you, find you all your vendors, location, etc.  Maybe you could talk to her and let her know you want to be more hands on than you thought and ask if there is a different package you could do.  Otherwise you can always email her back and let her know that you appreciate her enthusiasm but you will contact her once you have ideas and updates.

Post # 4
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I “kind” of know what you mean. I have a coordinator who emails me a lot just to kind of chat and ask for updates. Most of the time I don’t have anything to tell her, so I just say I’ve been super busy but once I have some news I’ll let you know 🙂

Post # 5
2867 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If it’s her full time job then I can see why she’d want to keep up to date with you, so her emails are probably just so she can see if there is anything else she can research instead of getting a big pile of stuff all at once.

I’d just tell her politely that you don’t have anything for her now but you’ll let her know when you do. Maybe ask her to check in twice a week instead of every day. But it only takes a few seconds to respond to emails so just keep answers short if she’s still checking in daily.

Post # 6
3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Im with camrie on this.

Keep it short and sweet and polite. No need to have a phone convo. Least she is being helpful rather than having a coordinator that goes MIA!

Post # 7
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

That’s awesome that she is so helpful! I’d probably be overwhelmed by her involvement, too, though. I actually didn’t hire a particular planner because she was emailing me too often about finding a time to meet and I knew I didn’t have time for someone that high maintenance..I’m so bad. 😉

I’d just let her know you’d keep her in the loop if there are any updates and hope that she gets the hint. I agree with ccranetobe that it’s better she be so enthusiastic than have her disappear!

Post # 8
2054 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Mine is actually kind of the opposite…she gives ME all these ideas but doesnt seem to listen to mine…i guess its hard to find a balance between the two.

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