Wedding Planner Not Respecting Budget

posted 2 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m not sure how large your budget is, but you still have enough time to plan things on your own from the sound of it.

The flower quote sounds INSANELY expensive, so I can only imagine what else is overpriced.

Post # 3
Member
2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

LexC2112: You need a come to jesus with her. Stat. And if you still aren’t aligned after the chat, tell her that unfortunately, you are 100% committed to your wedding vision, which does not include going massively over budget.

You hired her for her professionalism and expertise, and in my opinion, it’s massively unprofessional to misrepresent one’s expertise. To save your budget, you’ve made the tough decision of moving forward only with vendors who add the value within your budget. Unfortunately, she does neither as well as consistently ignore your concerns. This is unacceptable. Unacceptable.

Do you have a backup wedding planner or an experienced bridesmaid who can step up while you look for another planner? 

Post # 4
Member
8025 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Maybe she gets kick backs from her friend vendors she refers. I would consider firing her or at least tell her how you are considering it- 30k over your budget is INSANE. 30k IS a good budget! You can def plan a nice wedding on that. Hell 5-6k is enough for very nice flowers!!

Post # 6
Member
2679 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Honestly at this point (if talking to her does not or has not worked) I think it might just be best to cut your loses. It seems like you have a good handle on things so far and she has already forced you to do more leg work than you were initially planning from the sounds of things. She should not be going so far over your budget, she is a professional and that is ridiculous!

Post # 8
Member
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

Hell no would I put up with that crap. Sorry, you don’t negotiate costs after contracts are signed, she lied to you and now that YOU signed, you are under obligation, unless you cancel and forego the deposits. Do not proceed with anything further! 

Talk to her sternly. Tell her only once more… This number (insert original budget number here) IS YOUR BUDGET!! She has far surpassed that and you will do nothing further with her until SHE finds a way to cut costs NOW to be within your budget!

If after the fact she does not, review your contract with her stating the budget and tell her her services will be terminated, you will be giving her negative review on each and every thing her name is affiliated with and a lawyer will be contacting her. Then try and recoup your costs incurred.

Post # 11
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6028 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Part of the problem may be that you’re not saying No to her when she brings you an over-budget option. You said “my budget is $X” and she presents you an option that is clearly over the budget and you sign for it anyway. Despite setting a budget, you’re giving her a conflicting message, and the impression that you’re willing to increase the budget anytime. Have a sit-down with her. Tell her what your budget is, show her all the places you’ve gone over, ask her to help you get your costs back into a more reasonable range (more in line with your budget) and tell yourself that if she brings you any quothe that’s more that 10% over what you’d originally allocated! you’re going to reject it flat out. People do what you show them they can do, and while I don’t know if her motives are greed/higher commission or she just wants to put together an amazing super-fancy wedding, it does sound like you’ve set the precedent that it’s okay for her to spend your money lavishly.

Post # 12
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273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2025

LexC2112:  That is INSANE! I was quoted $4000 for my wedding (in reality, it was $900 since I used silk flowers instead), and that included 20 taller centerpieces plus bouquets for me and 4 BMs, and literally hundreds of rose petals for the flower girls to throw around. For $12K, your flowers must be spitting out gold or something!

I would cut your losses with the wedding planner – (sorry if this is a repeat questions) have you paid her in full yet? Most planners/DOCs only require a deposit up until a week or two before the event date. If you haven’t, I would just cut her out and blast her on every social site possible. It’s extremely unprofessional for a planner to disregard your budget like that. (I ended up going 15k over my original budget, but I made a concious choice to do so!)

Post # 15
Member
1500 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

LexC2112:  what the heck… no and no and no. I worked with one of the top planners in my region who usually work with budgets way, WAY bigger than mine, but they kept me pretty much on-budget! And when we went over, it was usually a very reasonabel explanation (i.e. I just didn’t know how much things cost for my expectations). At the end of the day we had some surprises, but never went over my $30K wedding budget. I think your planner just does not KNOW any vendors that are more in the price range of your budget, she is just pulling $120K-style vendors with you, and that is her doing you a HUGE disservice. I would just start looking for vendors on your own at this point.

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