Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2013 - The Skinner Barn
I should start off my saying that my wedding coordinator is lovely. She has great reviews and has been going above and beyond for my wedding. Lately, however, she has been suggesting vendors that are less than ideal. She suggested a photographer whose sample images were flat and cheap-looking. Then she sent me the portfolio of a makeup artist (aka her close friend) whose work looked chalky and overdone. Finally, she sent me the portfolio of a hair stylist who has less than impressive images. These all seem to be close friends that she has made in the business, which is great because she can get low prices, but I definitely don’t want to use them.
The problem is, I don’t know how to go about telling her this without sounding rude. She always contacts these vendors before running them past me so I got an email from the makeup artist thanking me for my interest. It seriously stresses me out because I don’t want to be rude to anyone. At the same time, I don’t want hooker makeup or messy hair on my wedding day. What do you think I should do?
Post # 3
Be upfront and firm about it. Don’t tiptoe around her feelings. If she is a professional, she will understand. This is your day and you are paying for her services and these vendors. Phrase it politely but don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
@lolaswann: +1. I would also show her examples of what you ARE looking for
Post # 5
Be honest. It may be the only vendors she has, but most people can find reputable vendors who do excellent work, who are more than willing to give you deals, or work with your budget, within reason. It’s been my experience that if I find vendors with family owned businesses they throw stuff in for free. Be honest, its your day, and there are SOO many photogs, videogs and makeup artists out there that if you dont like their photos.. move on. Every artist knows good photos are your first impression so if those arent good or jus tnot what you are looking for, i wouldnt waste my time on them. Tell her you are thankful for her suggestions but maybe you can look on your own. It is her responsibilty to get things in your budget too so sometimes if she calls the vendor you found it could grease the wheels a little with their generosity.