- 3 weeks ago
- Wedding: September 2017
My wedding planner and I are not seeing eye-to-eye and I don’t know what to do about it. I like her as a person but feel like she’s added more stress to our wedding overall. She is very highly rated and also very very expensive so I assumed she would help to eliminate a lot of the stress I had with planning the wedding (I have anxiety).
We have two vendors through her that I’m really unhappy with. We ended up hiring a lot of our own vendors but we did go through her for about half of the vendors. I’m the type of person that avoids confrontation at all costs (telling her that we found our own venue was so nerve wracking for me, I shook all day I was so nervous, but we were running out of time and the venues she was showing us were going to be way over our budget and require us to cut numerous corners).
We have two vendors that we hired through her and we are very unhappy with them. Last night we did a tasting for our sweets table at a bakery that she highly reccomended. Everything tasted stale, and the owners were very brash and rude to us. We didn’t sign any sort of contract, it was more of an agreement. With our wedding coming up next month I feel like it would be very rude of me to simply tell them I was unhappy and we would not be using their desserts. I’m sure they were counting on us and this is also a close friend of our planner. I’m guessing we could probably still use them, maybe they just used old goods from earlier in the day. Bees I am not picky at all. I love cookies from McDonald’s. We are not foodies by any means and we are not hard to please. I’ve never had baked goods I didn’t like but these were rock solid.
Secondly, today I had my hair and makeup trial. They are supposed to come and do everyone’s hair and makeup- family, bridesmaids, flower girl, etc. I think we hired 5 out of her 10 girls. I didn’t really think the hair and makeup artist had a great online portfolio, but the planner assured us that she was excellent. I believe she refers almost all of her clients to them. I don’t want to ruffle feathers but the hair and makeup looked absolutely awful. I sent photos from my trial around to my friends (without saying anything and their first comment was: “You’ll be beautiful no matter what, but do you want honesty?”
I did tell the owner I didn’t like the hair or makeup and they made a few adjustments but it still just wasn’t right. I paid and both the hair and makeup lasted for only a couple of hours. Needless to say, I want a new vendor. I know we already aren’t our planners favorite person but I don’t know how to handle this situation- while I’m willing to maybe have some not great baked treats, I’m really not willing to have hair and makeup that I hate. After all, I will have these photos forever.
I did ask if they had any more experienced sylists available for my day and they said no. They didn’t require me to sign a contract until a week before the wedding because they trusted my planner so much. I guess I could offer to pay them a % of what we were going to be contracted to do but I have not signed anything yet. I just would feel very bad that they’ve had five girls “reserved” for my day if I bailed on them now.
My friends/family said the trial (particularly the hair) was so poorly done, they wouldn’t risk trying to go back and re-do it. I am trying to line up a plan B. but I don’t know how to go about it without straining my (already rough) relationship with my planner. I also don’t want these girls to be out of a day of work but since I didn’t have a contract if I bailed (in theory) I wouldn’t owe them anything. Suggestions would be so appreciated??
I am less worried about the bakery at this point but both are stressing me out quite a bit. 🙁