Post # 1
Hi bees !
I am engaged to be married in two years, and we have started talking about planning. I have heard of quite a few couples going to wedding planners for help, but me and my man don’t feel it’s necessary. The wedding won’t be that big, we are only inviting close relatives, and we are doing everything pretty discreetly. We are getting married in playa del carmen, and are having the reception there and the honeymoon on an island. We already have our own ideas of what will be a nice wedding, and we don’t feel we need a wedding planner, at all. What are the pros and cons of a wedding planner ? Can’t we plan our big day on our own ?
Post # 2
No you don’t need one, it is just for people who can’t plan their wedding themselves.
Post # 3
I planned everything myself so no wedding planner, but I did hire a Day of Coordinator. She will contact all my vendors two months before, the month of, and week of. She will also help with the day of events, do set up, and decor. She’s greeting and welcoming guests and making sure everything runs smoothly and on time. Takes the stress off of me for the day. With a smaller wedding I didn’t want family or friends to have to work. I want them to enjoy the day.
Post # 4
Tinkerdust: You can, but think through what that will mean. Some of the worst weddings I’ve been to were poorly organized, stressful affairs. For many of the brides, it was their first major event production. And it showed, though I would never share this to their face — what’s done is done and they probably won’t ever plan another event that large again.
If you’re having a small wedding (~20 people) you will probably be more than fine, but if you’re planning for ~200 people, you will likely need help.
Depending on where you’re from / where you’re getting married, you probably also want help. Think of your planner as a partner in helping you execute your vision.
Post # 5
Tinkerdust: I don’t think wedding planner are not nessesary It take away from the fun planning the wedding and also time to bond with your fiancé . As much I love planning my wedding because my fiance and I bond on a different level but it can me overwhelm and crazy. I just love it at the end of the day I love everything wedding and can’t wait for my big day 🙂
Post # 6
Not everybody needs a wedding planner. It depends on the circumstances really. I used to plan weddings for people, and I’ve met all kinds of brides. A lot of brides who go with full service planning are typically just too busy to do it all. Planning a wedding is more than just going to cake tastings and playing on wedding bee. It really is work, and when you’re working a 60 hour work week, sometimes its just easier to just do the fun stuff, and pay someone else to get their hands dirty with the rest.
Additionally, I am a firm believer that everyone shouldat least hire a day of coordinator to keep everything on a timeline, wrangle the vendors, and deal with any issues that come up. Weddings aren’t perfect, and as a bride I don’t want to hear about every little thing that goes wrong, I just want it handled, and I don’t want to put that responsibility on my friends and family.
I personally will not be hiring a full on planner, but I will hire someone to help me tie things together in the last couple months and coordinate the day. I just want to make sure that things are as carefree as possible.
Post # 7
They aren’t necessary, but they take a load off. I planned the majority of the wedding myself. I hired a day of coordinator because a friend said she was going to take care of the reception, but flaked out on me halfway through the process.
Now I am so glad that I hired my day of coordinator. She’s been a big help especially as we get closer to the big day. Plus she’s been my go to person for wedding stuff since I’m not sure about a lot of things that are supposed to be included in the wedding reception. I mostly hired her because planning the wedding was becoming too stressful w/ a full-time job and school. If you have family and friends helping out, you may not need a wedding coordinator.
Post # 8
They aren’t necessary, just like a wedding cake and expensive dress aren’t necessary to be married. But they are nice to have if you can fit them in your budget. We don’t have a full blown wedding planner, but did get a day of coordinator. She’s going to set up and break down our ceremony decor, make sure no one runs off when pictures are due, contact vendors a month before the wedding, make me a timeline for the day, and basically make it so that I have a stress free wedding day in general. That to me alone is enough to hire her.
Post # 9
It’s not mandatory. Some people can do it themselves but some require one.
Post # 10
Wedding Planners may not be necessary in certain instances but may be absolutely necessary in others. In my case for an example, my fiance and I are from South Africa and we work in Ethiopia (6 hours flight from SA, not including another one hour flight to our villages/cities inside SA). We know nothing about weddings (not anymore in my case, thanks to WeddingBee). There hasn’t been any wedding in our families and between us there is only one parent, my mom. Both fiance’s parents and my father have long been deceased and we do not have much family memberS to depend on to do this for us in our absence.
We will only come back home a week or two before the wedding and by that time everything should be ready.
Given my situation and the kind of wedding I want, only a professional and experienced wedding planner would assist making my dream come true and I have to say so far she is the best decision after my fiancee of course, I have ever made related to this wedding. We are forever on emails sending inspirational photos and hers is to make sure I get what I want.
She will be setting up and coordinating the day of as well. I really don’t have any DIY talents and I’m not about to explore that 2 weeks before my wedding.
That though doesn’t mean I shoud just sit and wait for her. I have done a lot of research as most of my very important vendors (Photographer, Videographer, Ceremony and Reception Venues, DJ, etc) were actually found by me with the assistance of google.
A wedding planner is an absolute necessity fo me. Given my absolute no knowledge about weddings, I think I would still have a wedding planner even if I was not in a foreign country. I just want to ease the stress on me a bit, I already have too much to stress about, like how to look good on pictures because I am just not a picture person.
Having said that though I am planning (my mom mostly) our 2 African Traditional Weddings to follow the “white”wedding. I’m not that obsessed with those, which is why I am doing it myself there apart from Decor, Photography, Videography, DJ and Catering.
Post # 11
I would have hired one if my mother wasn’t used to planning large events (she’s not a wedding planner, but she sits on debutante and art ball committees). I’m planning my wedding long distance, but she’s there, so we obviously didn’t need to hire one. She plans several large events every year, so I’m not too fussed about what the wedding will be like. She’s very organized.
I think if you are super organized and can think through the event – and your vendors are top rate, you should be fine without one. I think the problem some ill-planned weddings is people who aren’t used to throwing big formal parties throw a big formal party without really thinking about it logistically.There’s a strategy to it. The important stuff is not the handmade card box, its the logistics of who and what is going to be where when.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
Tinkerdust: It may be a little late to reply but we did not go with a wedding planner. We got engaged last October and are getting married this coming up October. We are literally almost done planning everything. I think it depends on if you don’t have a lot of time (or are not organized enough), if it is a destination wedding and the extravagance of the wedding. I personally enjoy planning and doing all the details, so it was not a necessity.
Post # 13
Tinkerdust: I think many people can do it without a wedding planner. However, you may want a day of coordinator so you can spend the time enjoying your day while someone else runs it.
Post # 14
Tinkerdust: You definitely do not need to use one. All my friends have done with a day of coordinator or a planner. However, they also have had a friend or a family member scrambling to get set up day of and I don’t find that enjoyable. <br /><br />I hired one as I live across the country from where we are getting married, have a stressful career and cannot be bothered with choosing vendors, figuring out budget or timelines. It’s been way easier on me, and I know if there is an issue on the wedding day, she will fix it and I won’t have any headaches.