Post # 1
when i first got engaged my sister inlaw saw the only one who was really happy about it my boyfriends family think marriage ruin relationships and my family didnt really care and my sister who is the only bridesmaid announced she was moving to koreamonths later i manged to get my mother to go wedding dress shopping with me we only went to one place and i felt like dirt i didnt try anything on because i was too big i just wanted to get out of there as fast as i could and we were in there for about all of five minutes so i could only get a dress online and i feel like i missed out on a mother daughter thing and i think my mam realized that and got me i try on everything and acted like i was a big deal but i felt nothing<br />now between places treating me like dirt and other places treating me like im some little girl playing make believe i feel like im trying to plan someone elses party im sorry i just feel really alone
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB
I planned my wedding alone, it sucked and really wasn’t any fun. I was stressed, I cried, but i made it through as you will.
It sounds like you’ve got to get yourself into a happier place all around. Remember this wedding is supposed to be about you and your fiance. So do what makes you happy. Stop expecting other people to care, cuz when you expect that you’ll end up dissapointed and hurt.
Post # 3
- Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base
You may be physically alone but you have all of us virtual bees to help you.
I want to tell you a little story… I am also a larger bride. The first time I stepped into a bridal salon I was scared. I just looked. Did that about 3 times. Finally my Love was with me and we went into a specialty plus size salon. The size 32 wouldn’t even close on me. Talk about mortifying. Since then fortunately I had weight loss surgery so I will soon be shopping for a gown. I am still just as scared to go back and try anything on. You can do all of this. This will be your day and when you are done you will look back with so much has pride at you accomplished on your own.
Feel free to message me any time.
Post # 4
🙁 I’m sorry about that but honestly, if none of my family were happy for me or seemed interested in being involved, I would take all my wedding money and either a) do a DW with the few people who realky care or B) do a courthouse marriage and use the rest of the money for an amazing honeymoon!! I consider doing that about 50% of the time just because of the stress and money but I have too many people who would be super upset and I couldn’t justify it.
My friend however called off her wedding (the party, not the marriage) and decided to do it at the courthouse because nobody supported her marriage (very new relationship, she’s only 23 and he’s in his 30s other issues but he’s not a bad person, just way to fast for some family members) and her mom freaked at the idea of her daughter not having a wedding and ended up footing the entire 20k bill, which mom was not paying for anything originally but friend was of the mindset “why are we breaking the bank for a party for a bunch of people who don’t care” and I agree. if you really want the big wedding go for it but don’t feel like there’s anything wrong with just making the day about you and your FI if none of your friends/family are being supportive! The plus side to having shitty family members is you shouldn’t feel bad doing what makes you happy regardless of their opinion 🙂
Post # 5
caroline.fitzgerald.334: I am planning my alone and it sucks. Between family issues, my FSIL is getting married a few months before us, and not having friends… I am 100% in the dark. Any more I wish I eloped because I feel like its just not worth it any more.