Post # 1
I suffer from generalized anxiety disorder and it has gotten even worse as I near my wedding date. With only 3 months of planning left to go, all I can think about are all the things that could go wrong on the day of. Aside from the physical act of getting married, the big things for me on my day of are my dress/makeup and photography, and because of this all I can think about is – what if my MUA has an emergency and can’t make it? Or what if my dress doesn’t come in on time? etc. I have full faith in the vendors I have hired, so it’s not so much that I’m worried they won’t show up, but rather, what happens if something big happens on my wedding day thats beyond my/their control?
I know it’s just one day and things are bound to go wrong, and at the end of the day what matters is that I’m marrying my soulmate. These anxities are so trivial, but I guess after 2 years of planning and investing a fair bit of money in this wedding, I’m letting the anxiety get the best of me.
Any suggestions for trying to get over some of these worries? Did anyone have Plan B’s for some of the big aspects of their wedding? Any tips on how to relax and not let the last months of planning get the best of me would be greatly appreciated!
Post # 2
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
mrsMAC77 : Every wedding has something not go as planned. It’s par for the course.
I have bad anxiety and can relate. I was a mess and had panic attacks induced by my wedding anxiety. I gave my contracts and vendor contact info to my MOH and to the maitre d. I asked that if anyone not fulfil their service or show up to contact them and take care of as much as they can without involving me. The best thing I did was tell DH that once the rehearsal was starting, all the planning was over and everything was out of my hands. the important thing is that you’re getting married. All the little things are trivial. It POURED rain on me and my dad in the convertible on the way to church and my hair was a mess, but I said screw it I’m going with the flow and it actually made for some really cool pictures of me and my dad! I had my SIL fix up my hair a bit after the ceremony. Just prepare yourself to focus on you and your FI!
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
mrsMAC77 : Also, do you have a bridal party? Because having your closest friends and relatives really helps they keep you smiling and laughing and if something did happen like a freak accident, there are multiple people to help resolve it.
MUA doesn’t make it? Cousin Suzie watches youtube tutorials all the time and has her 10lb makeup bag with her.
Photographer running late? Aunt Mary has a digital camera that she loves using and will take a million photos even if the photog is there
You will figure it all out and it will all work out in the end!
Post # 4
I think the best event planners always prepare themselves mentally for the worst case scenarios. Instead of ignoring them, think what would you do in these situations? How would you prepare for them? It helps me personally to envision what could go wrong and working a way to resolve it. Once that’s done, that’s fine.
Back up for makeup could be a local salon that has makeup. I wouldn’t book anything but you can bookmark the name and location in your phone so if you have a “sorry x happened, I can’t make it”, you can be ok fine, I’ll call x and beg.
- touch base with all your vendors the week of your wedding and confirm the date and time they are arriving.
- have all the contact details for all your vendors on a printed list and in your phone for the day of
- keep an eye on the time. If your makeup artist is supposed to be there at 10 am, you’re calling her cell at 10:10 am.
You will be fine!!!
Post # 5
MrsSapphire : Thank you! I’m hoping the day of (after a few mimosas) I’ll just roll with the punches lol. I don’t have a bridal party (not even MOH, just a witness who is my brother), so I think that’s part of my anxiety. However, I did hire a day of coordinator who I know will be able to deal with anything that could go wrong.
lulubloom : I was actually thinking of booking an appointment at Sephora for a few hours after my MUA is scheduled to arrive (my ceremony is late in the day, so I have a bit of a cushion time-wise) that way I know if anything catastrophic happens, I have a last resort back up, and if nothing goes wrong, then I still can give them a few hours notice to cancel my appointment, and they will be able to fill it no problem with a walk-in/from their wait list. My MUA is a good friend of mine, so I have full confidence in her, my mind just thinks of worst-case scenarios for everything (especially because I can’t even apply eyeliner properly lol).
Thank you ladies for your advice and words! Definitely going to write these tips down and make sure I follow them in the weeks leading up to the wedding.
Post # 6
My coordinator has a bridal emergency kit. I forget what all is in it but I know it includes thread and needles, bandaids, deoderant, light snacks, bobby pins, etc. It might be good to prepare one of those just in case.
Don’t worry about vendors. Vendors like to get paid and that won’t happen if they don’t show up lol.
I totally get it though because I was really anxious too. For me, the worst part of wedding planning was 2-3 months out because it is close enough to feel pressure but far enough where it feels like a lot is still at a stand still and that made me worry if things would get done.
But now I am 2 weeks and 6 days away (woo hoo!) and I am actually starting to really enjoy my engagement. I think it also helps that my DOC is the one with the heavy lifting to do now.
Post # 7
futuremrsdaniellebell : i will definitely prep an emergency kit! glad to hear things looked up after the 3 month mark! congrats on your upcoming wedding 🙂