- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Hey ladies… I wonder if this is a normal phenomenon. We got engaged on 12/11/12, together for 3 years, and truly have no complaints. I knew going into this that he didn’t really want an active role in the planning; like he said, “babe, just tell me where to go and what to wear, and I’ll be there.” I’m totally fine with this, and quite frankly, it’s easier that way ( I do get his input on stuff when we’re home together and I’m on the computer).
Since I started planning the wedding, my stress levels have gone up a good deal. I know that part is normal. What’s bugging me is that I am unfairly channeling it his way. I find I have limited patience for just about anything, and I’ve been slightly disconnected as well. A few friends of mine have commented on my difference in demeanor as well (im usually a happy-go-lucky kind of gal). I am tired, and overwhelmed, but I don’t like that I internally direct it towards him. I think its kind of like resentment, but it’s my own fault, since I haven’t asked him for anything, and I knew going in that wedding planning was not his thing.
I guess I just needed a vent more than anything. Feels better to get it down on “paper”. But if anyone else can relate and share some insight, i’d love to hear what you have to say.