- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
I’m writing this for some support. Planning this wedding has been the most emotionally taxing thing I have ever had to do in my life. I’m getting married in less than three weeks and during this wedding process I have lost 2 good friends, and have had to deal with so much grief from lack of family support. I’ll start at the beginning. I had been with my fiance for 4 years when we got engaged, we’re so head over heels for eachother, it has now been 5 and a half years since we’ve been together and everything is great between us and I can’t wait to marry him. It’s the external stress that has made me regret the day I decided to plan a big wedding. My mom, dad and sister since day 1 think that me having a big wedding is stupid, they are all not traditional people, my mom and dad are divorced. They never ask me about the wedding, and frankly, don’t really care about it by the actions and words they have displayed. I respect the fact that they don’t like big weddings and they think it’s a waste of money, but that’s what we chose and I should have been respected for it. I’m so hurt by them that my heart is breaking just typing this up. To make matters worse, 5 months into the planning, my maid of honor became very controlling and manipulative because we had to decide to not have children at the wedding because of the small venue vs. the amount of kids on both sides of the family. I asked her to step down for that and many other reasons and we have not talked since October of last year. That takes me to this weekend. Another one of my bridesmaids planned a huge bachelorette party for me, she came up to me and asked me personally to plan it and that she would cover most expenses minus a few events and hotel (I was so thankful for this and felt so unbelievably blessed). I am a simple girl but I agreed and let her plan everything, I didn’t know anything about the weekend until the events started. Friday night everyone arrived including my mom and sister, they had a huge fight and my mom left in the middle of the night to go back to her home 3 hours away and left my sister stranded (she lives there too) the next day my sister took the bus back to her home. Saturday night 2 girls got split up when we went for drinks and the girl who had planned it was in a fit of rage when they returned. She was yelling and swearing and began to throw things such as her phone and a bowl of dip. She then punched one of the girls in the face and left. The next day she gave a politician apology and followed all of her sorry’s with “but” and “if she hadn’t”.. she also asked me to pay for the balance of the weekend if I would ask her to step down when I had told her all I needed was time to just think and collect my thoughts. I had no choice but to ask her to step down because the wedding is so close to mend everything going on right now. It is three weeks before the wedding. Her dress is still in alterations.
I feel like I have done nothing to deserve any of this, all I wanted was for 80 of my friends and family to come and join my fiance and I as we embarked on a lifetime together and stopped to celebrate the love we have found in eachother. I am so hurt and at this point I just want the day to be over. I don’t know what to do, I don’t know how to react, I am just in emotional pain. I’m sorry I just needed to vent and I know the bee is such a supportive group of girls. Thanks for listening.