Wedding planning disaster

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@krrmee5:  Can you please add paragraphs?  It’s just a wall of text to me.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Fellow B, I hope you feel better.. I too understand wedding planning can be somewhat stressful, even if everyone gets along.  Here is the kep to remember, at the end of the day, what matters most is the committment that you and you future husband will make and what you to do with it afterwards.  That is why it is so important in my opinion to only have those people there that will support your union and stand with you both in good times and bad times.  Not sure of you age, but I am almost 45 years of age, and I was in a few weddings back in my 20’s and I havent interacted with most of those people in years.  Hence in my wedding, there is one maid of honor (my sister) and one groomsment, more people= more drama.

 

So don’t worry about who is or who isnt in your wedding, if you only have one bridesmaid and 12 groomsmen, then so be it and make it work.  Let your parents know you love them, but set you expectations regarding the fact that you want a PEACEFUL DAY…..

 

Hope you feel better soon

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@krrmee5:  I’m sorry for your troubles. It’s no good when you don’t get the support you need or deserve. Did you know your BM’s were such a pain in the ass before you picked them? I know you didn’t sign up for it, but that girl who threw a punchand bowl of dip must have shown signs of being a brat before this bacelorette party.

Anyway, at the end of the day you will be marrying your FI. There will probably be more hiccups along the way since you still have a few weeks, but it will all work out and you will look back on your wedding day because you married the man you love.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Wow, I’m so sorry you’re going through that. No one deserves to feel like their not supported when all they want is to marry heir guy and celebrate their love. It was probably good that you asked people to step down, they would have likely caused drama AT the wedding. As for your mom leaving your sister stranded, that was very childish… And what grown woman punches another and throws things? None of these people have been there for you and I’m so sorry about that! I hope your day is stress-free and perfect

 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m really sorry all that happened to you. Weddings bring out the best & worst in people, the good news is you got 2 problematic people out of your wedding party BEFORE they could destroy your big day – so kudos on that! It hurts to have friends act like that, and with your family not being supportive, I can see why you’re feeling so upset.

This close to your wedding is when it’s time to say “fuck ’em” and build a bubble of happiness around you and your FI. That’s what me and my hubby did, things were getting ridiculous, so we said, “we’re in charge and this day is going to be great, even if the wedding’s a disaster.” Focus on finishing your planning, have some nice date nights w/ FI (wedding planning-free!), and enjoy the last few weeks of being engaged. All the other noise & drama will fade away. Don’t let negative people steal your joy.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@krrmee5:  I am so sorry that the process has been so taxing and that you struggled this much! Hopefully the wedding goes on without a hitch and you can’t start your beautiful and happy lives together! 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I agree with VioletSky. Times like these you need the ‘fuck ’em’ attitude. 

Do not let them ruin your wedding. Family should be pulling together for you. As for friends, it’s a pity that you’ll need to let them go so can finish planning in peace. 

I’m quick to cut or write people off from my life though in general. 

But in my wedding, I played the generous bride. All they had to do was to show up. And yet they caused me so much aggro in the morning. Despite having a fabulous wedding, I can’t help but feel scarred from the morning’s experience. Think of this like work, and let go of anyone in your team that isn’t helpful.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m so so so sorry to hear all the crazy stuff that has happened. Here are a million hugs from me. I had some struggles in my wedding planning too, and the only thing that is getting me through is focusing on the good – even if it doesn’t seem like there is a lot – focus on the good things! If you find yourself feeling down, or depressed about the wedding, make yourself think about something else. Don’t let the sad feelings get the better of you – you deserve to be happy and you deserve to be treated well, so spend whatever time you have with the people who help you feel that way and ignore everything else. 

 

If you ever need to vent, we’re here for you!

Post # 13
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Helper bee

@beachbride1216:  +1 ahaha seriously! I got one sentence in and was like my head is spinning!

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