Post # 1
I got engaged Xmas eve 2010. Getting married this fall. I thought I would have plenty of time of prepare…I even started thinking about the wedding way before we were engaged (we’re been together 10+ yrs). Therefore, with so much time, I thought planning would be a breeze; that I’d have so much support. Quite the opposite! With so much time, the wedding has become bigger and bigger and 2x as much as we intended to spend due to the our guest list growing (300 guests). I’ve become moody due to the money I have to somehow come up with as FILs and my own family continue to add to my guest list. I have a BM who has done jack, and not that I’ve asked for anything but an occassional call would be nice. I even bought the dresses! I emailed asking who is staying at the hotel the night before…no response from this BM, in fact I texted her about it the next day and it was one word: Staying…and then later another text from her saying, “well, what do we owe you?” Seriously? First off, I’m paying, second…seriously? How rude!
Ppl are calling my wedding party asking why they haven’t received their std….my MOM even asked if I could change the reception time bc my aunts didn’t want to drive home late! I said no kids at the wedding it’s on our website and on the invitations, but eh, who cares what I want, i’m just the bride paying for 1/2 this wedding myself!
I vent to ppl and I shouldn’t bc I look terrible but I can’t hold it in. My face is breaking out from stress! I never get pimples! I’m making snarky comments on everything just bc I feel miserable. I never thought I’d become a bridezilla but she’s appeared and as ugly as ever. And I’m sad…I thought planning would be exciting and fun but I feel like I do nothing but appease, accomodate, etc! I absolutely cannot wait for this to end.
Anyone else feeling terrible? Please vent…I hope I’m not alone.
Post # 3
@evail: Oh I just had the. The! Day from below. We are a few weeks out and had the worst nightmare you can imagine go wrong. Almost fixed now…we hope! My eyes are swollen because I have become such a crybaby, I’m also breaking out all over my FACE (which I rarely ever-ever do), and my house looks like a wedding and an ape had a party all over it. I’m SO ready for this to be over!
No more time to write, I have to go finish the *$@#?! parasol swizzle sticks. I’ve heard wine works wonders for the skin- that’s my plan now anyway.
Post # 4
@evail: Deep breath. Take a few moments, pull your MOH aside and ask to have a girls’ night (just you and her) to relax and vent.
You’ll feel better after a margarita and a shoulder to cry on. 🙂
Post # 5
I understand a bit of what you’re experiencing. When I asked my father if he was coming to our wedding his response was, “I’ll try”. I did confront him about it but he says he can’t plan anything much because of his health. Yet he manages to visit his stepchildren in Kentucky 3 or 4 times a year. I live 10 minutes away. Two days ago I sent him an email asking for addresses and have yet to get a response.
I think if I lower my expectations, I’ll be less disappointed. While I think it’s perfectly reasonable to want help and enthusiasm from others, I think you’ll feel better if you just accept the fact that the majority of people aren’t going to be as excited or interested in your wedding as you are. Most people these days are pretty consumed with their own lives. This doesn’t make their behavior right but we have to learn to let the things we can’t change go. If you don’t it’ll just continue to eat you up inside. Don’t let them rob you of your joy.
Post # 6
Thanks! I went and had a bottle of wine with my sisters. Yep, a bottle. It helped. A lot! =D