(Closed) Wedding planning is… fun!?

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Everybody has those moments. You’re not alone! At a certain point I was telling people, don’t have a wedding, just elope! So yeah, I understand 😀

If you’re getting stressed about something, take a break from it and do something non-wedding related. It may help you to clear your mind. You’re so close, it’ll be here in no time. And it’ll go by in a flash!

Post # 3
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716 posts
Busy bee

I think this is the classic case of expecting too much.  People go to tons of weddings and they usually involve traveling, shopping for something to wear, giving a gift, eating generic wedding food, and sitting through rituals.  People are BM and GM in many weddings and they all involve time and expense.  People are on average wedding-ed out.  In your case, your older sisters who had their weddings are probably wedding-ed out.  We all get to plan whatever we want, but we have to do the work.  And yea, it’s work…to-do lists, research, meetings, follow up.  But the good news is you only have to do it once.  And while I say have to, of course it’s elective.  Wedding planning is absolutely work.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

I am totally with you! I feel like I have no help at all. My family and MOH live several hours away. We are also doing small so i feel like people think i dont need help. Some of my coworkers have been very nice and helpful.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

MeandMyLouboutins:  YOU ARE NOT ALONE! I am feeling the same way and getting the same response from sister and a few bridesmaids. This whole process hasnt been enjoyable, its making me regret not doing a destination wedding with those who truly wanted to be there. 

Post # 6
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m with you! I’ve been struggling a lot because to be honest, I always thought I wanted a big fancy wedding until I got engaged. I’ve been around the boards since I was a waiting Bee and reading about weddings for a long time before that, but when it came to planning, I realized that because of how busy my FI is with his career right now, the planning is falling onto me. We’re planning a morning ceremony with a brunch reception to make it less stressful, but he has a large family and that has made this into a giant ordeal. I completely understand, because planning has made me anxious and stressed and I still have a long way to go. You’re not the only one who isn’t floating along on a cloud. 🙂 Hugs anyway though~

Post # 8
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2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My fsil is a wedding planner and i have no idea how she does it. I just want it to be july already so i can be done with the planning. It is so much to do for just 1 day.

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Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I didn’t like wedding planning at all.  I was in the middle of buying a house, going to night school, and working full time.  I wanted a tiny destination wedding, but agreed to a big wedding after a talk with my mom about how much it’d mean to our families to have a larger wedding.

Don’t feel bad if you don’t LOVE planning.  That doesn’t make you a bad fiance/daughter/person.  And it also doesn’t mean you won’t absolutely love and cherish your wedding day.  

Your sisters might just be trying to give you space to realize your vision, since it sounds much different than theirs.  A lot of people don’t want to “pressure the bride”, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t there to support you.  Maybe ask her to help with specific things/tasks?  And I agree with PP’s on the wedding’ed out possibility.  My DH’s sister is getting married next summer, and while I’m happy to help when asked, I’m not going out of my way to plan ANOTHER wedding right after I just got done with mine.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

MeandMyLouboutins:  I found the wedding planning extremely stressful. I think lots of people do.

Honestly, you are better off doing most of it yourself without your sister involved. Because the more involved people are, the more they will try to tell you what kind of wedding to have.

I went small, too, and worried at times about going against what what most people expect a wedding to be. In fact, small weddings are often wonderful.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I can’t say I loved the process, but I had it easier than most.  Our wedding was very small & intimate, which made less hassles.

And dh’s ex was an event planner who ran her business into the ground.  He had to step in & salvage it so he knows a lot about wedding planning & was a huge help.

Still, I was glad when it was over.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

MeandMyLouboutins:  I keep my sanity over wedding planning, by ignoring anyone’s opinion. I don’t really talk to anyone about it besides FI either. 

Plus, the venue I chose is all inclusive, and I mean that in every sense of the word. I get to show up looking beautiful, then I get to party and go home. I don’t have to lift a finger. Plus, a lot of choices are made for me through my venue and included WP (which I am 100% fine with).

Keep your head up, ignore the negativity and remember this is YOUR party.

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