Post # 1
This is a bit of an emotional post but I’m just seeing if it’s just “me”
The whole wedding process hasn’t been “fun” for me. I know everyone says don’t let the stressful moments outweight the fun parts but they do by far!!!! Don’t get me wrong I’m excited for the actual day and my life with my FI after but this last 7 months of looking at photogs, venues etc hasn’t been super enjoyable.
I had a conversation with my sister the other day on what I feel is a bit of a lack of enthusiasm from them (I have 4 older sisters, I’m the youngest) and she basically told me the way I have decided to hae my wedding (on a Friday and small) made her back off as she realized we have a different vision of what a wedding is!? She made a comment that for her, she’d have as many people as possible in a banquet hall before going the way I am, smaller in a boutique hotel (fair enough but I just dont understand why that would cause you to back off from wedding talk? or involvement)
Maybe I’m just exhausted or whatever the case may be but I almost can’t wait to just be married and get this over with…
Am I the only one who feels this way?
Post # 2
Everybody has those moments. You’re not alone! At a certain point I was telling people, don’t have a wedding, just elope! So yeah, I understand 😀
If you’re getting stressed about something, take a break from it and do something non-wedding related. It may help you to clear your mind. You’re so close, it’ll be here in no time. And it’ll go by in a flash!
Post # 3
I think this is the classic case of expecting too much. People go to tons of weddings and they usually involve traveling, shopping for something to wear, giving a gift, eating generic wedding food, and sitting through rituals. People are BM and GM in many weddings and they all involve time and expense. People are on average wedding-ed out. In your case, your older sisters who had their weddings are probably wedding-ed out. We all get to plan whatever we want, but we have to do the work. And yea, it’s work…to-do lists, research, meetings, follow up. But the good news is you only have to do it once. And while I say have to, of course it’s elective. Wedding planning is absolutely work.
Post # 4
I am totally with you! I feel like I have no help at all. My family and MOH live several hours away. We are also doing small so i feel like people think i dont need help. Some of my coworkers have been very nice and helpful.
Post # 5
MeandMyLouboutins: YOU ARE NOT ALONE! I am feeling the same way and getting the same response from sister and a few bridesmaids. This whole process hasnt been enjoyable, its making me regret not doing a destination wedding with those who truly wanted to be there.
Post # 6
I’m with you! I’ve been struggling a lot because to be honest, I always thought I wanted a big fancy wedding until I got engaged. I’ve been around the boards since I was a waiting Bee and reading about weddings for a long time before that, but when it came to planning, I realized that because of how busy my FI is with his career right now, the planning is falling onto me. We’re planning a morning ceremony with a brunch reception to make it less stressful, but he has a large family and that has made this into a giant ordeal. I completely understand, because planning has made me anxious and stressed and I still have a long way to go. You’re not the only one who isn’t floating along on a cloud. 🙂 Hugs anyway though~
Post # 7
Thank you so much ladies! Even knowing that 1 other person feels the way I do makes me feel a bit better..
Post # 8
My fsil is a wedding planner and i have no idea how she does it. I just want it to be july already so i can be done with the planning. It is so much to do for just 1 day.
Post # 9
I didn’t like wedding planning at all. I was in the middle of buying a house, going to night school, and working full time. I wanted a tiny destination wedding, but agreed to a big wedding after a talk with my mom about how much it’d mean to our families to have a larger wedding.
Don’t feel bad if you don’t LOVE planning. That doesn’t make you a bad fiance/daughter/person. And it also doesn’t mean you won’t absolutely love and cherish your wedding day.
Your sisters might just be trying to give you space to realize your vision, since it sounds much different than theirs. A lot of people don’t want to “pressure the bride”, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t there to support you. Maybe ask her to help with specific things/tasks? And I agree with PP’s on the wedding’ed out possibility. My DH’s sister is getting married next summer, and while I’m happy to help when asked, I’m not going out of my way to plan ANOTHER wedding right after I just got done with mine.
Post # 11
MeandMyLouboutins: I found the wedding planning extremely stressful. I think lots of people do.
Honestly, you are better off doing most of it yourself without your sister involved. Because the more involved people are, the more they will try to tell you what kind of wedding to have.
I went small, too, and worried at times about going against what what most people expect a wedding to be. In fact, small weddings are often wonderful.
Post # 12
I can’t say I loved the process, but I had it easier than most. Our wedding was very small & intimate, which made less hassles.
And dh’s ex was an event planner who ran her business into the ground. He had to step in & salvage it so he knows a lot about wedding planning & was a huge help.
Still, I was glad when it was over.
Post # 13
MeandMyLouboutins: I keep my sanity over wedding planning, by ignoring anyone’s opinion. I don’t really talk to anyone about it besides FI either.
Plus, the venue I chose is all inclusive, and I mean that in every sense of the word. I get to show up looking beautiful, then I get to party and go home. I don’t have to lift a finger. Plus, a lot of choices are made for me through my venue and included WP (which I am 100% fine with).
Keep your head up, ignore the negativity and remember this is YOUR party.
Post # 14
hippopotamus: yes, I think I learned that lesson early in the game. I wanted to share with everyone who asked and then it was just too much..
I’m at the point now ehere when people ask to see my dress I say nope!
Post # 15
blshngbride2014: Ugh, me and the FI were JUST talking about this yesterday. We should’ve just done af ull destiantion wedding. We were so concerned about how people could afoord it we decided not to but most of those same people are the ones giving us issues. I just found out yesterday my brother in law won’t come as he doesn’t want to take his kids out of school for the day. Needless to say they have taken them out plenty of times as well as they have a neighbor they leave them with on numerous occasions when they go away. This, is just spiteful or as a stance but I have let it roll off of my back.