Post # 1
I need a place to vent because I have no place to do it.
I hate being so stressed about all things weddings lately. I hate that I need to defend myself about issues like switching my wedding date. I hate that I have venue envy and think my reception will look tacky. I hate that my fiancé would not take it seriously by letting me do all the researching while suggesting crazy ideas (paying for a DNP song?) I know this is my big day but kept help that everything is going to turn out badly. And don’t get me started about the on-going pressure to lose weight (thanks mom for constantly barking at me).
The worst part about it, FI and I are arguing about wedding stuff on a daily basis. Take away the wedding talk, we never fight.
It’s just that this on-going pressure is making me lose focus on what the day is supposed to be about. I hate feeling like this.
Post # 3
Have you read the book “A Practical Wedding” by Meg Keene? It was so helpful to read during the planning process, especially for reminding me what the day was all about.
Post # 4
Sing it to me sister!
There is good news though. It really does die down eventually. I think the major things that you have to do way in advance are definitely the most stressful (and most expensive, so double stressful!) Everything started out SUPER stressful for me, but then in the last 6 months, it got better and better. I mean, now the only thing we really need to worry about is programs. And who cares if those don’t work out!
Post # 5
I don’t have much advice because I’m in the same exact boat, but I will tell you that you are not alone!!
Post # 6
@remijp: +1 to that
And have you condsidered taking a serious break from planning?
That was the only thing that stopped us from arguing so much about the wedding in the beginning…. we had to step back and give it a rest, then figure out what was important to us and and compromise.
FI also started to help plan after we took a break from it and talked about it – he’s like my wedding planning MVP now!
We just started planning last month for a March ’14 wedding (literally just started), so you can totally do that without sacaraficing your wedding plans.
Post # 7
@BeeRod527: I was exactly the same. FI eventually said that if the wedding is stressing me out this much he didn’t want to get married anymore. So I took 3 weeks off. I didn’t plan. I didn’t go on WB. I didn’t look on Pinterest. It worked wonders! Now I can think about the wedding and not obsess. I think about it, make plans, book a vendor, then I dont do any wedding related things for a week or so. I feel much happier
Post # 8
@linnylou_88: I’m gonna try that once everything is booked. However, going through that photo section and seeing some of the posters saying about other people’s photographer’s choices is making me second guess my choice because I didn’t spend as much. It’s not like we want to spend more but we don’t want to go into debt.
I’m at this point saying “screw it! If you don’t like it, too frickin’ bad!”