Wedding Planning is making me MISERABLE. :(

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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2368 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Take a critical look at your list. Preferably over a glass or three of wine. Split it into “needs to be perfect”, ” need to have, but the details are flexible” and “can live without”. 

No one cares what color their napkins are. They need them, but they’re getting thrown out at the end. Same with the cups. Delegate that to your mom or fiance. If the flowers mean a lot to you, and they HAVE to be perfect, keep that on your plate. Do that with your whole to do list, and it’ll get a lot more manageable.

Post # 3
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2516 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

HI!!

In the same boat, I could have wrote the below

” FI is FINALLY open to helping – he’s been completely useless throughout this whole thing but after me having multiple tantrums telling him how overwhelmed I am and how I can’t plan this, do my very demanding job, AND keep the household running, I think he is finally going to help me this weekend. But I bet you 5 million dollars that means for like 1 hour.”<br /><br />

Can you delegate? Seriously, Moms and MILs usually want to be able to help. Let them! I am making my mom and MIL in charge of certain things that I really dont care or want to be thinking about. Drink a bottle of wine, write down a list of what they can do, and just ask them.

Also make a list for you FI and just say ” can you please get this done by this date”

And yeah, wedding planning blows. Just look at it as a JOB for now and dont expect it to be enjoyable haha. Getting things done/accomplished and crossed off the list will help.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

One of my friends recently got married and she had a lot of DIY projects. She felt the same way for a few months leading up to the wedding. She gathered her BMs and some friends (myself included), deligated tasks, and everything was organized and put together over a few weekends. 

Don’t stress about the little things, prioritize, get the difficult/most time consuming items done and then move on to napkins and cups, etc. Good luck!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I agree with PPs. Just prioritize your list, and then delegate. If you don’t care about the flowers, but your mom does, then let her handle it and trust that she’ll get it done. Especially if she’s the one who’s turned it into something so crazy.

I felt the same way in the months leading up to my wedding. I said “we should’ve eloped!” way too many times, and repeatedly told people I can’t wait for it to be over. But in the end, everything got done, the things that didn’t just didn’t matter anyway, and it was all worth it. Hang in there!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Priotize and hand off.  If your mom is going to go crazy about the flowers and you just want “flowers in a vase” and your mom won’t blow your budget, hand it off to her.  Our center pieces I handed off to my mom very early in the process as I know she LOVES crafty projects.  She did a great job, found very nice things, and I was happy with the results, even if I didn’t really care about center peices other than having center pieces.

Look at your check list and if your FI has a sudden interest in ALL the music, hand it off.  If your mom is very into the look of things, hand her the decorating.  Then take a sip of wine and check in when you have the time. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Gwendolyn88:  Haha I feel your pain! It wont be over until its over unfortunatly. But you will be ok! All this stress will be over with in 3 weeks!!

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