Post # 1
Alright so I’ll be the first to admit, I’ve never been the kind of girl who dreamed about her wedding day since she was a little girl. I honestly have no idea what I’m doing and would feel so much more comfortable if we could elope. All the eyes on me.. all the decorations (does it even look good?) the money.. the awkwardness of it all.
I know its no way to look at it and you all are probably more excited to plan than maybe most.. or maybe i’m weird. My FI doesnt really want to help too much, and I really cant blame him– I just wish I had the money to pay someone to do it all for me and I could just show up.
I want a great day but I fear so much that its going to feel sloppy and cheap, not well planned. I see my peers and you all getting excited about favors and different shades of pink and I just can’t get into as much.
Does this make me a terrible bride? I am confident in me and my FI’s love for one another but all this pressure on this one day is starting to make me crack. =[
Post # 3
No you are not terrible! I am so scared of walking down the aisle and having everyone look at me. I am scared to do the first dance. I do enjoy some aspects of planning but not all. We hired a wedding planner about 7 months ago. So I think that has helped me not pull my hair out. I am dont get excited over the small things either. No posts about favors or my cool colors. I kind of just saw things I liked and went with the flow. I also think you are closer to your wedding than most of the bees posting about inspiration boards, pink pold a dot favors and all that jazz. Those bees are still in their planning stages and hopefully you are in the wrapping things up stage. that can be pretty dull. You are perfectly normal to me!
Post # 4
You sound exactly like me! I begged the FI to elope, oh no we have to have a huge wedding. Ugh. And who gets to plan it? Yes, it’s me. I’m trying to make the best of it but it’s hard. I just keep trying to focus on what the day is about, not all the frivolity of it all or the 400 people who will be gawking at my while I walk down the aisle, or the awkwardness of having my father and his family there.So no, you are not a terrible bride, just a simpler one which I think is a wonderful characteristic!
Post # 5
that is a relief. We are mostly done, yes– except for the cake.. somehow we still havent gotten that taken care of.
I guess it has a lot to do with the money. We have to cut a lot of corners and aren’t able to do a lo of things i wish we could. No caterer, no photog, not much floral.. and it bums me out. Esp looking at other’s weddings and seeing the whole 9. I saw this really cool idea for centerpieces and it was scratched and sand in a glass with candles was suggested.. that cant happen. I know, its nice and cheap but were in an art gallery not at the beach. I am so scared as to how it will translate.
there i said it. my insecurities are out =