Post # 1
I’m not sure if anyone else has experienced the same thing. But I always dreamed that wedding planning would be a fun time for me and the bridesmaids. Kind of a time to hang out all together, laughing, drinking wine, looking in magazines and watching wedding shows.
Okay, maybe that’s unrealistic. How about at least going to the dress shop and having everyone try on the dresses and share their opinions? I saw this as I was shopping for my dress. The bride and a group of 4 girls. They were laughing, happy and all having a good time. Trying different dresses on, getting ideas. All getting along.
Now for my wedding? The only ones I feel that are excited are me, my mom and my FI. Even my FMIL doesn’t ask how things are going. (At least she doesn’t ask me).
I have two out of town bridesmaids, which can’t be helped. One bridesmaid I’m not super close with, but she’s family and I needed to include her. The other BM, my ex-best friend of 10 years, is too busy for me. To the point where it’s insulting, but that’s another story.
I understand everyone has lives. But sometimes I just get a little sad.
Post # 3
I’m in the same boat. I cant say it makes me sad. I did notice when I was dress shopping that many brides had a whole entourage with them and I only had my mom. However, I grew to appreciate it just being the 2 of us. My FMIL has NEVER asked one question about the wedding (so far). MY bms dont ask many questions. I think I get more questions and offers of help from coworkers and other friends than my bms. I quickly learned that nobody really cares about your wedding except you and probably your mom. My dad has 0 interest and my FI just says he cant wait until it is all over and we are married. Sucks but oh well….
Post # 4
im so glad i am not the only one to feel this way! my mother did not tell me it was going to be stressful and unfun at sometimes…darn her! haha. if i have a girl i will most def not paint that picture in her head…should i blame Disney and JLO too lol. it hasnt all been terrible but its not as fun as i always thought it would be. *reality check*
Post # 5
Yeah… I think most of us have these moments of being disappointed and stressed during our wedding planning. It certainly isn’t the fairytale most people imagine it to be.
I have 6 bridesmaids, and two of them live within an hour of me but are very busy, and the others live between 3 and 8 hours away. We definitely have not had any hangouts to do wedding stuff because of that. Overall my bridesmaids are great, but some of them are notorious for literally ignoring emails I send out asking about stuff like if they want to get their hair done so I could book appointments if necessary. It’s not like I am emailing them about stupid stuff
I’m sorry you feel sad! Vent on the Bee anytime you like. Maybe you and your mom could spend some time together doing wedding stuff? I get what you mean, that you aren’t expecting your friends to go overboard, but you thought especially as bridesmaids, that they would be a little more involved. I heard the saying “nobody cares about your wedding as much as you do”- and it actually helped me.
Post # 6
I can relate, not sure what else to tell you other than to try and make it as fun as you can with yoru Mom. My Mom died 5 years ago so it has completly taken away the fun and excitement you expect.
Hoping for others to stand in and be as excited as she would have been, just leads to sadness.
Enjoy your Mama and make it something fun for the two of you 🙂
Post # 7
@Stressed_Bride15: I can definitely relate. My MOH has REALLY dropped the ball. I am so disappointed. She hasn’t been helpful at all, and she’s my best friend of 10 years! Latest news: she’s choosing to go to a 3 day electronic music festival instead of my bridal shower (thrown by my aunts). I can’t help but to be extremely disappointed, and I often find myself thinking “this isn’t how it is supposed to go!” I agree with @MiSsyK, if I have a daughter, I’ll be sure to tell her that wedding planning isn’t always sunshine and rainbows!
I think the biggest let down is that I knew wedding planning would be stressful, but I didn’t know that some of the stress would be caused by my best friend! 🙁
Post # 8
My only BMs are ay sister and my FSIL. I KNOW that my friends would be TERRIBLE BMs, but part of me is SO SAD that I’m missing all these fun moments with them!