(Closed) Wedding Planning – Not what I'd always dreamed of?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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8697 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m in the same boat. I cant say it makes me sad. I did notice when I was dress shopping that many brides had a whole entourage with them and I only had my mom. However, I grew to appreciate it just being the 2 of us. My FMIL has NEVER asked one question about the wedding (so far). MY bms dont ask many questions. I think I get more questions and offers of help from coworkers and other friends than my bms. I quickly learned that nobody really cares about your wedding except you and probably your mom. My dad has 0 interest and my FI just says he cant wait until it is all over and we are married. Sucks but oh well….

Post # 4
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63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

im so glad i am not the only one to feel this way! my mother did not tell me it was going to be stressful and unfun at sometimes…darn her! haha. if i have a girl i will most def not paint that picture in her head…should i blame Disney and JLO too lol. it hasnt all been terrible but its not as fun as i always thought it would be. *reality check*

Post # 5
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533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yeah… I think most of us have these moments of being disappointed and stressed during our wedding planning. It certainly isn’t the fairytale most people imagine it to be.

I have 6 bridesmaids, and two of them live within an hour of me but are very busy, and the others live between 3 and 8 hours away. We definitely have not had any hangouts to do wedding stuff because of that. Overall my bridesmaids are great, but some of them are notorious for literally ignoring emails I send out asking about stuff like if they want to get their hair done so I could book appointments if necessary. It’s not like I am emailing them about stupid stuff

I’m sorry you feel sad! Vent on the Bee anytime you like. Maybe you and your mom could spend some time together doing wedding stuff? I get what you mean, that you aren’t expecting your friends to go overboard, but you thought especially as bridesmaids, that they would be a little more involved. I heard the saying “nobody cares about your wedding as much as you do”- and it actually helped me.

Post # 6
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21 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I can relate, not sure what else to tell you other than to try and make it as fun as you can with yoru Mom.  My Mom died 5 years ago so it has completly taken away the fun and excitement you expect.  

 

Hoping for others to stand in and be as excited as she would have been, just leads to sadness.  

 

Enjoy your Mama and make it something fun for the two of you 🙂

Post # 7
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739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Stressed_Bride15:  I can definitely relate. My MOH has REALLY dropped the ball. I am so disappointed. She hasn’t been helpful at all, and she’s my best friend of 10 years! Latest news: she’s choosing to go to a 3 day electronic music festival instead of my bridal shower (thrown by my aunts). I can’t help but to be extremely disappointed, and I often find myself thinking “this isn’t how it is supposed to go!” I agree with @MiSsyK, if I have a daughter, I’ll be sure to tell her that wedding planning isn’t always sunshine and rainbows! 

I think the biggest let down is that I knew wedding planning would be stressful, but I didn’t know that some of the stress would be caused by my best friend! 🙁 

Post # 8
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12250 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

My only BMs are ay sister and my FSIL. I KNOW that my friends would be TERRIBLE BMs, but part of me is SO SAD that I’m missing all these fun moments with them!

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