Post # 1
Wedding planning has seemed to strain my relationship with my FI. We never used to fight at all and lately we have had a few major arguments. He’s been involved with every aspect of the planning since day one, but now all of a sudden is saying “I never wanted this and I never wanted that. I just want the day to be over.” What?! I don’t understand and frankly it hurts. I never pushed for anything. We have made all of these decisions together.
Has the wedding planning caused issues in anyone else’s relationship? I’m scared that maybe it’s not the wedding planning itself, but that it’s caused him to change his mind. I’m starting to wonder if he even wants to marry me now… I’m so upset.
Post # 3
Yes! We had some of our worst arguments over the wedding. Regardless of the cause wedding planning is stressful. Things will level out. Don’t worry yourself over it. Just be sure to make up at the end of the day.
Post # 4
@AlmostHisWife: I’ve found that including him on occassion works best for us. He still shows me he wants to marry me by taking care of me, making sure I’m not stressed, and taking me out on dates (we still date). I come to him with updates and to help me make decisions here and there, but simply separating the wedding planning from our relationship is actually working out great. Maybe the level of involvement is causing an issue.
Post # 5
ashleyr0512 – thanks. At least I know that I am not the only one that has gone through this. I’ve been so sad over it.
TaurianDoll – maybe you’re right. Maybe it’s too much for him. He is unhappy at work and I guess this is just setting him over the edge? But he WANTED to be included in all of it. I actually had hoped that he would just leave me to do most of it. Maybe I should just take charge of things?
Post # 6
Yes. We have never fought so much. It’s a stressful process. Our problem comes with me wanting to elope and him allowing his mom to take over our wedding because he never has an opinion and I am being forced into doing something that I’ve never wanted to do but I have to make all the decisions for our part of it. I knew that we could never plan a wedding all on our own in the first place.