- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
I am a grad student. Until last week, I worked full-time, now part-time (not working is NOT an option). I have to start student teaching in January, through the Spring. I’m getting married June 8th, almost a month after graduation. I hope to land a teaching position that summer.
I am stressing, because wedding planning was going to be hard as is – and I just found out that because the school changed the schedule AGAIN. A required class is now only offered WHILE I’m student teaching. It is not an easy class, according to those who have already taken it. I had been planning to work weekends and some evenings while student teaching to save for the wedding.
I know it will be impossible to plan a wedding with all of that going one, but I really need to have some income while I student teach. FI could support us… but we would have $0 for anything but necessities, and would have to give up the way we currently eat at home (try to purchase local and organic foods as much as possible) and buy the cheapest food possible, no eating out. We have had some unexpected expenses in the past month due to the derecho storm and falling trees. FI is already using some of the $$ he saved for our wedding to purchase me a new (used) vehicle because mine was totaled by the storm.
I am working to pay for my classes, and grad school is not cheap. So far, I have not had to take out any more education loans, and I do not intend to start now. But between school and trying to pay for a wedding… I just don’t know if it will happen.
I am so pissed off at the school for changing my planned class schedule. I have already quit a better-paying job because the manager was not willing to work around my school schedule (and for other reasons). This is a program that was designed for people working full-time, so they could take evening classes. I was not told until I got to class that there were day-time requirements outside of class (new to the program this year).
We are already having a long engagement, and pushed it to the summer because if I get a job I definitely don’t want to have to ask for time off to get married in the fall (our preferred time). We have already put a deposit on the venue. We really don’t want to wait ANOTHER year to get married… but what if I’m just too busy to plan it? It is something I have been looking forward to, and I am planning a lot of DIY projects.
Did any of you bees plan a wedding in similar situations? Is there hope or should I seriously consider postponing the wedding another year? FI is very handy and will help, and his mother and sister will definitely help me plan and complete DIY projects… but they live 2 hours.
I just worry about taking on too much, because I am known to do that and then drive myself half crazy getting it all done.