Post # 1
We’re nearly three months away from the wedding and I’ve never been so stressed out. If it isn’t dress drama, my fiancee are at odds over the wedding. She wants to scrap the DJ and I want one. I say scrap the rental floor, and she inisists if we have a DJ, we need to shell out the $300 for a floor. Has anyone else just been overwhelmed by the wedding and unappreciative of the added stress it is bringing to your life? My fiancee and I are human and quarrel over things sometimes, but this wedding is literally draining me. I find myself crying over stupid things, getting short and snippy with her…and I don’t like who I am in this wedding planning phase. I am excited for the wedding, but I will drop to my knees (fru fru ball gown and all) and praise God when the wedding is over!
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
I’m sorry to hear the planning is so stressful for you — but know you’re not alone! Mr. Bruschetta and I totally hit rough patches where we disagree majorly, or worry about all we have left to do. But we know at the end of the day, it’s all worth it — we’ll have an amazingly memorable day, and we’ll be thrilled to be married and not have to stress about ribbon colors any more! 😉
Post # 4
Oh I feel ya!! My Fiance and I are going through the same thing, he just doens’t get how many little things there is to worry about (numbers to order invites, numbers of meals to order, favors to make, BUDGET etc). It has caused MAJOR strain on our relationship, I am really at about wits end…..To make matters worse, people (meaning my mom and FMIL) aren’t any help, and neither is my Fiance so I get stuck doing everything and worrying about everything as well. I’m at the point where I just want to cancel everything, or just elope…..I’m really cracking under the stress and I also don’t like the person that I have become since this planning.
Post # 5
Beach and Nova, I totally hear where you are coming from. My Fiance and I went through the same thing when we first started planning the wedding. I insisted on a photographer, and he wanted to just hand a digital camera to one of his sisters. He refuses to justify spending a mere $150 for the ivory table cloths I want because they are just ONE shade away from white lol. Then the whole reason we can’t afford these things is because his family is 70 percent of the guest list, but he refused to cut. It’s never ending.
The good news is, I think you’ll find that once most of the details are settled upon, you’ll get more time to just relax and enjoy the upcoming nuptuals. I pretty much did everything for our wedding in the first three months, and during that time wanted to elope, go to city hall, fire all my bridesmaids, you name it. Now that most of its done, I’m pretty chill about it … still working on those table cloths though 😉
Post # 6
Look – my parents are paying for everything and Mr. Moderndaisy and I still disagree on things! Even when price is not an object, decisions are very emotional and sometimes mean way more to someone than you thought they would.
I definitely had to have a talk with him to let him know how stressful these decisions are and remind him that he never used to care about he color of the bridesmiads boquets, so what’s the deal with him suddenly caring so much? It put things into perspective and now he just lets me run with everything and it works perfectly!
Post # 7
Haha, Modern, my parents are paying for everything too! Yet somehow, I still feel like he has more of a say in things … wonder how that happened?
Post # 8
Thank God fiancees in general are so forgiving of us or none of us would make it down the aisle!! It must be like giving birth–a lot of pain, but once it is over–so rewarding. I know my Fiance and I have been fighting like crazy. Most of the time it has to do with him thinking everything is so simple. But he doesn’t stay up at night going over all of the wedding details. He never has to think about the logistics of everything so everytime he makes a suggestion it drives me CRAZY!! Poor guy–thank goodness we can almost see the finish line!
Post # 9
It is perfectly normal to be stressed, planning a perfect wedding day is stressful no matter how big or expensive the wedding will be. For one CALM DOWN and stay calm. I bite my tounge a lot, that doesn’t mean I;m a pushover but if you stay calm and smart about it, things will go so smooth and they will end up respecting you. Unless of course your parents are not very easy to deal with. Find a happy medium and learn to comprimise. Trust me I have told myself over and over again to just stay calm and everyone else will too. You said you were crying over stupid little things, exactly what you said Stupid and Little things. Don’t worry about the small things, try to brush it off as best you can and find a happy medium. Nobody wants to deal with a bridezilla and that what it is turning you into and nobody wants to deal with a pain in the ass mother in-law or mother of the bride. I’m sorry you are stressed but just stay calm, and the day will run itself. By the way I might need this same advise when my day gets closer 😉
Post # 10
I agree with Alesha, I wish I took that advice myself.