Wedding planning taken a back seat to house buying

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2015 - Banquet Hall

Calm down girl!! You’re a strong woman and I know you’ll be able to take all this on and then some!  Just take one day at a time. You could try organizing your time very carefully from now until the night before your wedding. Just breathe, relax, and know that this stress will be over soon and you’ll be enjoying your beautiful honeymoon with your new husband!! 🙂

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

texaslemon:  We just bought a house with 3.5 months before wedding. YES, it’s crazy!!!  You find ways to make it happen though.  I think it’s key to stay organized and keep house/wedding totally separate.  Designate days for each and don’t blend them.  Since the date can’t change, we are putting some house things aside that we initially wanted to do right away.  And while I’m a bit of a control freak, I’ve started really enlisting the help of my mom and sister (MOH) to take some of the smaller but tedious tasks off my plate.  

Based on your list of things left, I would prioritize booking any vendors that are still needed first (if availability runs out, you’re kinda screwed).  If vendors are already booked, then you are in great shape.  Next, order those invites!!!  Depends on where you order from, but some can take longer than you think, and you need enough time to design them, and stuff/address once they arrive.  Flowers/cake happens at the last minute and they won’t work on your project until just before, so that can happen later if needed.  Maybe do a phone call if time is tight and ask if you can email pix of what you like first, so when you do meet with them, its less time trial & error and more time finalizing details.  For decor, do as much prep work as you can about what you want/where to find it so shopping is easy and you don’t waste time looking for certain things.  It will all come together!! Just stay calm and organized 😉

 

*For videographer… I waited too long and missed out on the one I really wanted.  No one else was available in that time frame (for the quality I wanted), so I went ahead and booked WedFlik- sort of like a DIY version.  You get a bunch of cameras that you designate to different ppl throughout the day, then mail them all in, and the company will break them down and edit.  I’ve heard great reviews and I’m excited for this.  

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 4 months ago by  shorebride105.
Post # 4
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97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Um, yes!! Our closing date is a little over a week from now. Our wedding just under three weeks away. Luckily, my fiancé has taken on house related issues while I’ve focused on wedding, along with a ton of help from my family. It really is overwhelming though…I have no words of wisdom as I am a ball of stress about anything and everything. Just take it one at a time. It’s hard to look at a long list of things that need to get done.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida

OMG I thought i was the only one!! We were going to Build a house and plan a wedding at the same time!! Our lease is up in May and we were going to start building this Nov. I asked my FI….Do we really want to be worring about contractors and house stuff the Month of our wedding (March) and have to 2 weeks to Pack up 1 1/2 houses (most of my stuff is at my parents) as soon as we return form our hooneymoon (we would only hve 2 weeks to pack up and get out after our hooneymoon). So we are looking now to buy and build a in a few years.

Lucky for my all of my wedding planning is done (everything that needs a vendor and deposit is taken care of) now it’s just the small stuff.   

Post # 6
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889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida

OMG I thought i was the only one!! We were going to Build a house and plan a wedding at the same time!! Our lease is up in May and we were going to start building this Nov. I asked my FI….Do we really want to be worring about contractors and house stuff the Month of our wedding (March) and have to 2 weeks to Pack up 1 1/2 houses (most of my stuff is at my parents) as soon as we return form our hooneymoon (we would only hve 2 weeks to pack up and get out after our hooneymoon). So we are looking now to buy and build a in a few years.

Lucky for me all of my wedding planning is done (everything that needs a vendor and deposit is taken care of) now it’s just the small stuff.   

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Ha we actually built our home while we were plannign a wedding, and I also started to look for a new job.  It is manageable.  Just don’t sweat the small stuff.  No one noticed that I didn’t have a special pen to sign the guest book or that my favors didn’t ahve cute little “thank you” signs on them. Prioritize and organize but most of all, remember tha tno one will realyl memeber things like ceterpieces and menu cards.

Post # 8
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2007 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Yep! Getting married in 3 months and we just went under contract on a house. It’s very stressful, but I’ve just made a point of setting time aside for both. Now that we’ve actually found a house, I don’t have to worry about scheduling viewings around vendor meetinsg, so that’s nice, too. Lists and timelines are exremely helpful! Take it one step at a time instead of looking at the big picture, it’s much less overwhelming that way.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

This is really common. We bought a house in the middle of planning. So did 3 of my other engaged friends. My FI did most of the house stuff and I did most of the wedding stuff. I did put the wedding on the back burner for a bit, then jumped back in. I found having the house made me more reasonable with wedding purchases. All I can think of is ‘but… we need a garage, do I want to spend that much on something for a couple hours of one night?’. My FI loves my new sense of reasonableness hahaha.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

Congratulations, hon! I know it’s a LOT to do and to think about, but just try to remember that you’re being overwhelmed by wonderful things and not by negative things. 🙂 And you’re right — buying and moving into a house while in the midst of wedding planning puts both achievements into a different perspective. You and your FI should definitely prioritize and make lists of what you need to do for the wedding and what you need to do for the house. Don’t forget though that the house doesn’t have to be perfect immediately and your wedding day will be amazing even if you don’t splurge (time or money) on every single little thing. You can do this, especially with your FI’s help. Congratulations again!

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