- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2014
So I just got engaged a month ago, planning the wedding for February 2014. I have been on a few sites to just check things out, and am now sitting at work in tears because I can’t afford anything nice, it seems. We had a $5000 budget because we have to pay for everything ourselves, are inviting 100 people (and thats the trimmed down list) and aren’t into anything fancy…but even budget spit roast catering for that many people is $1200. Then booze, and at $10 a head thats still $1000, plus bar staff and serving staff….bang, half budget!
I’m totally happy to compromise on everything, my dress is cheap, the reception venue is super cheap, everything is as cheap as we can do, but it seems when it comes to receptions you can either have cheap, nasty and tacky (party pies and sausage rolls on paper plates!) or expensive…and yes I know some places are much more expensive!
So I’ve now hit our budget without even allocating money for photography,hair and makeup, and the grooms suit hire…and thats doing stuff as cheap as I can! Sydney isn’t cheap I guess, but I have lots of family coming from overseas and a few oldies…they’ll be staying in the CBD and I don’t want them to have to go too far out, particularly as my grandad isn’t too well these days (emphysema)
It’s really important to me that my whole family be there as I’ve had a very fractured relationship with them over the years, and my partner just doesn’t seem to understand that. He keeps saying well why don’t we just elope then, and I can’t make him see that I don’t feel it will be anywhere near as special without my family and friends.
So a month after being engaged and a week after starting to plan, I want to call it off. Honestly. I’m sitting here in tears because venue after venue is telling me no or giving me insane prices. I know it isn’t necessarily about the food or the booze, but it doesn’t look like we can afford any, let alone photos or makeup or anything.
anyone else have this problem?