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    JBeebe    May 29, 2010   Burnaby BC

    Dear wedding planning,

    Although I love you and enjoy our time together I feel like our relationship has over shadowed other aspects of my life. I feel like we have turned into one of those couples that infrequently venture out into other social circles, and when we do, we only talk about each other, boring everyone in the room. For instance, while I should have been studying for my Anatomy and Physiology class, I instead chose to spend the last two hours with you. We will inevitably break up in the spring of 2010 and I feel as if I will have a unhealthy void in my life to fill when you are gone. Maybe we should take a break and see other people. There's actually a very cute Psychology class I have my eye on recently as well as a social life that has been calling me up lately. Please know I love you and the choice to spend so much time together was my own, but I feel we would both benefit from a break. I would again have multiple interests and you would stop suffering from obsessive overplanning.

    Love always, JBeebe

    PS Is anyone else having this problem with their wedding planning?

     
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    RecessionistaBride    January 28, 2012  

    Whaaaaaat??? There's a life outside wedding planning? :P

     
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    FutureMrsDuff    8/28/2009   Bloomington, MN

    Ha ha... love it!!!

    I totally hear you, even with the wedding over it still finds a way to still be in my life. I think this is a relationship that might end up needing a restraining order.

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    Lol, so funny!  Yeah, sometimes I realize I've been preoccupied with wedding planning and I take a step.  This is why I did a year and half engagement, to make sure I can do all the planning but it doesn't consume my life.  Sometimes I just think I should get everything done now that I possibly can so idle time, is made for wedding plans lol.

     
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    fanatic888    10/16/10   Cincinnati

    Yeah it's absurd.  My SO always asks......"So what are you going to do when all this is over?"  I guess I'll have to find a hobby.  Any ideas?

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    Oh gosh, we just started planning and I already wonder what I am going to think about post-wedding.

    I guess then maybe we can all spend time in the "real world" and getting acquainted to life with our husbands???

     
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    JBeebe    May 29, 2010   Burnaby BC

    OR...maybe I can start planning my...I mean our...soon to be annual,"renewal-of-our-vows!" Why stop planning when it will only lead to a gigantic void in my social calendar and force me to deal with my crippling need to micromanage? I'll spend the rest of my (dammit! I mean OUR!) life in a blissful, yet delusionary state of, "pre-wedding-joy" :)

     
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    Miss Yap    02/20/10   Dallas

    lol. I did not see this post. But I guess I would still be blogging. And I think I might turn nesty and focus on getting our apartment gussied up. I need a project in my life.  I love being busy

     
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    Dragonsus    December 19, 2009   Lexington KY

    I'm looking forward to life without wedding planning!  Then I'll have time to get my music learned, and get through my last couple semesters of school!

     
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    mskalinin    Sept. 12, 2009   North East

    Haha... this is exactly why I advocate a short engagement, if you can swing it financially! My husband proposed on 4/12/09, we set the date a couple weeks later, and got married 9/12/09.

    I am the kind of person that obsesses about planning things in general, so I knew wedding planning would be a nightmare if dragged out over a year or more. I am so happy that we kept it short. I did a solid three months of planning, one month of letting my husband take over, and now after the wedding I don't feel like I am missing anything because I wasn't doing it for too too long.

    Good luck!

     
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    BabaAndBaba101010    October 10, 2010   San Diego, CA

    We have had a long engagement, like a year and half by the time it is all said and done. I figured this would be a good amount to plan and that it wouldn't take over my life, I was wrong!! I definitely think that these last few months have been hectic, but I am glad I have had all this time because I have changed my mind on so many things that I know now will be perfect. I really think I will have withdrawal when its over. I even told my FI to expect to hear "It is so weird to not have to think about wedding stuff" like a million times on our honeymoon.

     

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