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This is just my personal opinion, everyone's different but
Must List
-venue
-photographer
-food
-dress
-DIY touches
Less Stress List
-DJ
-paper goods
-officiant
-florist
-other outfits/accessories (guys, BMs, etc)
-honeymoon details
Ironically, I've found that having such a long engagement has caused everything to literally fall into place. I mean, I could have our wedding this summer, we really just need to get the caterer and DJ straightened out, and I need to ask the DOC I've chosen to work with if she's available. Besides that I have so much more done than I thought I would.
First determine your budget and how much you want to spend on each section of your wedding.
Second determine your guest list so you know how many people you will be inviting.
Third determine your colors and theme or type of wedding you want to have i.e. beach, church, etc.....
Fourth look for your venue.
Everything else will start falling into place once you have done the above. If you have any more questions feel free to message me.
I think it is different for every bride. For me, in order of importance:
1. Ceremony Site - We wanted the church where FI's parents, and several other family members got married.
2. Reception Site - We wanted something in close proximity to the church, since we are having a winter wedding, with the potential of bad weather.
3. Dress and Shoes. Self Explanatory, I am shallow :)
4. Food.
5. Photog.
Everybody's priorities are different!
The way FI and I did it was that we each named off 3 things that were important to us and that was what we splurged on and tried to save money on everything else.
My 3 things:
His 3 things:
Basically guest enjoyment so:
I generally agree with @lilyfaith, but a couple differences: For us, the officiant was a lot of stress and definitely up there on the priority list - after all, you can have a wedding without a photographer, but not without an officiant.
We also thought the DJ was very important (if you're having dancing).
Yeah, I put the officiant down on "less stress" because we know the organization we plan on going through, and we plan on writing our own ceremony. It was still stressful when I wasn't sure our state would recognize it, so I guess "less stress" is all relative! I'm a crazy planner, so time and effort goes into absolutely every detail for me, not matter how meaningless it'll appear to our guests (read: escort cards, menus, program, etc.)
The order that we did things:
Ceremony/Reception Venue
Officiant
Photographer
Band
Dress
Flowers
Paper goods
And that's as far as we've gotten so far. The most important things to us were venue, photography, officiant (important due to the fact that we had to find a rabbi who would marry us on a Friday night), and band.
Priorities to me: food, photographer, pretty place to have it, cake, paper goods
not so priorities: DJ, transportation, dress (i know right?!)/accessories, officiant (we already know who he is and like lilyfaith, it's not so stressful)
I wanted to know because my MOH said that she didn't feel that she has helped me enough and asked me about some of the things I needed help with. So I just wanted to make sure I wasn't missing anything that was priority in the wedding planning proces....
-We've done our guest list, our budget (even tho we are most likely going to be a little over) and we've sent the STDs out.
-My venues are booked. Both Ceremony and reception. Just have to take care of the details...
-My photographer and videographer are booked. Got a good deal on both of them (the lowest package $875!)
-My mom is going to pay for the caterer for the food. (I just have to give her a menu)
-I got my dress already (It just needs alterations)
-I'm not really a DIY touches type of girl (although I'm planning on DIY flowers!)
-My sister has booked and paid for the DJ.
-My sister is helping us pay for the invitations and we're paying for the other paper goods
-I have a great officiant our pastor. We had to go through over 6 months of biblical marriage counseling and he's been such a blessing to us.
-I was thinking Cosco for the florist but I'm not sure yet..
-As for the other attire, I'm going to pick out the tuxes for the guys later on this week, I'm thinking of getting the BM dresses at a gunny sack store in San Francisco, Ca. The flower girl dresses at a store in the Mall in an other town.
-We are waiting on finishing pulling weeds from FFIL's giant blue berry garden to book our honey moon because FFIL offered to pay for it (Yay! I'm sooo blessed aren't I?)
-As for the transportation I'm not sure what I will use either a horse carriage or a limo.
Thanks for all the suggestions I will totally write them all down...I think I'm good. I will probably print some of these out. Thanks so much. If you bees think of anything else please don't hesitate to post your thoughts....
Wow, you seem pretty on the ball to me! Do you have all your accessories for your dress and stuff? Jewelery, shoes and under garments?
@ shannon1126 Actually no I don't have all my accessories for my dress. I do however have my veil and hair piece. My aunt is making the veil for me (I'm so blessed to have an aunt who had a wedding boutique and is a seamstress!). I think I'm going to the mall to go shop for that. I don't like ordering things online. I ordered a bra online on Victoria's Secret and when I tried it on it didn't fit so I had to return it! (It was just a hassle!)
@thefuturemrsgibbs- wow! you seem to have everything in great shape!
hmm, what about the guest book (if you are doing one), escort cards, and programs? I think at this point you just need the finishing details and you are all set girly!!! and its only march!
@ krissybee It's only March! Lol. Yes you're right I just need the details. Beside's the guest book and the escort cards and programs I'm also having a unity candle. I have the three flower girl baskets. I need the ring bearer's pillow or pillows I think I'm having two ring bearers. I'm debating weather or not to have escort cards and I have to plan out my ceremony program before I can make them.
The main things we are spending money on is photography and decorations. Everything else will be nice, but not over the top. We are also having the reception at Mr. Oates' parents house (about three minutes from my parents house) which is in an orchard with amazing views of Mt. Hood and Adams. Two of our friends have offered to pay for all the alcohol and flowers. On top of that, my cousin is our officiant so we are saving money there as well!
Priorities:
1. Photography
2. Ceremony/venue
3. Decorations
4. Favors/gifts
5. Cake
6. DJ (unless we get our friend to do it since he is amazing!)
7. Dress
8. Food (potluck style with close family and friends bringing food)
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I'm getting nervous (about the planning process) and I wanted to know which wedding planning priorities and in order do you bees think are the most important.
Thanks in advance!