(Closed) Wedding planning; Want to get my priorities straight

posted 8 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

This is just my personal opinion, everyone’s different but 

Must List





-DIY touches


Less Stress List


-paper goods



-other outfits/accessories (guys, BMs, etc)

-honeymoon details


Ironically, I’ve found that having such a long engagement has caused everything to literally fall into place. I mean, I could have our wedding this summer, we really just need to get the caterer and DJ straightened out, and I need to ask the DOC I’ve chosen to work with if she’s available. Besides that I have so much more done than I thought I would. 


Post # 4
73 posts
Worker bee

First determine your budget and how much you want to spend on each section of your wedding. 

Second determine your guest list so you know how many people you will be inviting.

Third determine your colors and theme or type of wedding you want to have i.e. beach, church, etc…..

Fourth look for your venue.

Everything else will start falling into place once you have done the above. If you have any more questions feel free to message me.

Post # 5
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think it is different for every bride.  For me, in order of importance:

1. Ceremony Site – We wanted the church where FI’s parents, and several other family members got married. 

2. Reception Site – We wanted something in close proximity to the church, since we are having a winter wedding, with the potential of bad weather.

3. Dress and Shoes. Self Explanatory, I am shallow 🙂

4. Food. 

5. Photog.

Post # 6
6598 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Everybody’s priorities are different!

The way Fiance and I did it was that we each named off 3 things that were important to us and that was what we splurged on and tried to save money on everything else.

My 3 things:

  • Photography
  • My dress
  • The Rings

His 3 things:

Basically guest enjoyment so:

  • Food
  • Open Bar
  • Having the reception in a hotel so no one has to drive

Post # 7
1566 posts
Bumble bee

I generally agree with @lilyfaith, but a couple differences: For us, the officiant was a lot of stress and definitely up there on the priority list – after all, you can have a wedding without a photographer, but not without an officiant. 

We also thought the DJ was very important (if you’re having dancing). 

Post # 8
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yeah, I put the officiant down on “less stress” because we know the organization we plan on going through, and we plan on writing our own ceremony. It was still stressful when I wasn’t sure our state would recognize it, so I guess “less stress” is all relative! I’m a crazy planner, so time and effort goes into absolutely every detail for me, not matter how meaningless it’ll appear to our guests (read: escort cards, menus, program, etc.) 

Post # 9
3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

The order that we did things:

Ceremony/Reception Venue






Paper goods


And that’s as far as we’ve gotten so far. The most important things to us were venue, photography, officiant (important due to the fact that we had to find a rabbi who would marry us on a Friday night), and band.


Post # 10
1982 posts
Buzzing bee

Priorities to me: food, photographer, pretty place to have it, cake, paper goods

not so priorities: DJ, transportation, dress (i know right?!)/accessories, officiant (we already know who he is and like lilyfaith, it’s not so stressful)

Post # 12
1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow, you seem pretty on the ball to me! Do you have all your accessories for your dress and stuff? Jewelery, shoes and under garments?

Post # 14
2404 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@thefuturemrsgibbs- wow! you seem to have everything in great shape!


hmm, what about the guest book (if you are doing one), escort cards, and programs? I think at this point you just need the finishing details and you are all set girly!!! and its only march!

Post # 16
1148 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

  1. Our Officiant- Future Father-In-Law will marry us which is what we wanted
  2. Food- We’re spending 30% or so of our budget on this
  3. Originality- I just want it to be a unique experience for everyone who attends

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