Wedding Planning-What did you start with first? –

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1397 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We booked venue first and then did a engagement shoot so we would have something for the save the dates.  Also worked on the wedding website.  Look into DJ and if you are having one a videographer as well.  Heck, I did not book our flowers person until about 4 months out.

Post # 4
2124 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@isabelle_86:  Are you planning on getting a videographer? Because if you are you can work on that next. Then the DJ. Then next I got my dress. Then ceremony musicians and next flowers. Then cake. Then accessories. Decor. Etc.


Post # 6
1040 posts
Bumble bee

I’m getting married next May, and I’ve got these already taken care of: venue, catering, photographer, tent rental (outdoor wedding,) DJ, cake, and flowers. The next step I’m working on getting done with, is my dress, in September!

I live in CA and my wedding is in NY, so I took a week and flew out to NY and just nailed everything down so I don’t have to worry about it anymore.

But I think the venue and photographer are the two really big ones, which you’ve already got taken care of. Hmm.. do you have your officiant booked? Maybe that could be next. Or a DJ/band. I agree you could wait on flowers for a bit if you wanted to. 

Post # 7
1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Ah date twin! yay! After coming up with the “vision” I did the big things first, so venue than photographer,dj, decorator, planner, caterer, officiant and selected the bridal party. I dont think theres an “order” you have to follow. If you want to look at flowers now then by golly, go look at some blooms!

right now we just did the dresses for the girls and myself, ordered the wedding rings, made the save the dates and made a prelim registry. Were going to be blocking hotel rooms and booking the rehersal venue shortly, and im looking into lighting, furniture rentals, hair and makeup.


i think thats it lol

jeez it looks overwheliming when i type it out like that… Ah well, its the nature of the beast i suppose! Happy planning!

Post # 10
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@isabelle_86:  Solidify your guest list because it will affect pretty much everything else. Once that’s done, I would figure out food and drinks, then decor. 

Post # 11
5160 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

My method is:

Step 1: Combination of vision, budget and guest list (as you can’t create one without the other…unless your budget is unlimited!)

Step 2: Venue & Date

Step 3: totally depends on step 2…but from here it’s all gravy!  Make yourself a checklist of all the major things that need to happen to execute vision (officiant, flowers, decor, rings, dress, bridesmaid dresses…etc).  Then devide that list into two parts.  Part 1 is “really important to us.”  Part 2 is “not that important to us.”  Do part 1 first.  



Post # 12
1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We did

1. Rough guest list (so we could size the venue), picked the date

2. Church and Venue (venue includes caterer, if it didn’t I would have secured this asap) – at this time we also talked colors

3. Dress (I wasn’t intending to buy it but found it early on)

4. Photographer

We are currently in the process of booking our band, so I would say music next. 

Next but in no order is the cake, the florist, and picking out stationary (save the dates, invites, etc)


Post # 13
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’d look into invites.  Especially if your DIYing them.  This process may take longer than you think- you’ll need to figure out what all you’ll want to inclue.  I myself did not have RSVP cards, but I inclued two reception cards, and an additional information card with our wedding web address and hashtag # for instagram.  Don’t forget addressing the envelopes.  I printed mine on my home printer and had to tape each one shut on the end so the printer wouldn’t tear it up, then very carefully remove the tape. 

Cake.  who is making your cake?


Planning your decorations.  Which first you’ll need to know how big your tables are.  This way, you know what you want and you can grab the sales!


Post # 14
1102 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We did venue first, photographer second. 

Post # 15
761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

1. Colors (DH Picked them)

2. Rough Guest List

3. Date/Venue

4. Vendors (Photog, Videographer, DJ, Photobooth, String Quartet)

5. Paper Products (STD’s, Invitations, Thank You’s)

6. Bridal Gown/Accessories

7. Decor

8. Picked Bridal Party & Ordered their attire

9. Food/Drinks/Alcohol

10. Flowers

11. More Decor 🙂

12. Grooms Attire

13. Wedding Bands

14. Alterations

15. Candy Bar items

16. Linens

17. Bridal Cake/Grooms Cake

18. Chose Music for ceremony/reception

19. Marriage License

20. Booked Night of Hotel

21. Booked Limo

22. Booked Honeymoon

23. Booked make-up artist/hairstylist

24. Had make-up/hair trials and bridal photos

25. We got married!!

Post # 16
761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Whoops forgot to add, in between all of that we had our engagement photos done, Completed our registry, had a bridal shower, Bachlelorette/Bachelor Parties, rehearsal dinner and made a wedding website.

Daaang just looking at this list makes me more than sure I would never ever plan another wedding!


ETA: And I DIY’d our escort cards and table numbers!








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