Post # 1
We are planning to get married 9/12/15 and don’t know where to start or anything. I’m a total newbie and need help! All we have is a written guest list (around 50 people -70 max). since the wedding is about 21 months away when should I start doing wedding things?? (Ie: dress shopping, pick out/pay for a venue, choose a wedding cake bakery, dj, save the dates, bachelorette, bridal shower, etc). Any and all help/advice is appreciated!
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
Hello and welcome! 21 months is a lot of time. I had 14 months to plan, but a lot of things are done in the last 6 months anyway.
Get the big ones done first:
Photographer, if you are wanting one
Videographer, if you are desiring one (We are using FI’s camcorder)
DJ (Optional these days, depending on budget and whether the bride and groom would like to dance with their guests)
It depends whether you get it custom made; if you are on a budget, there are many options. Some dress stores require 9 months to deliver; however, David’s Bridal was very quick for me. Just 5 weeks for them to deliver a dress.
Start announcing your wedding date, so that people could save the date. FI and I skipped STDs altogether as postage isn’t cheap these days.
Had I known better, I would have done these earlier, instead of doing the fun parts of wedding planning:
– Created a wedding website, with a built in RSVP option (Here’s link to the thread I started on Wedding Websites)
– Thrift-store bargain hunts for decor; etc
Post # 4
@Cynderbug: thank you for your advice! I never thought about starting a wedding website early but that makes sense. I love your idea of thrift store hunting. I never truly understood what people meant when they said planning a wedding is stressful until now. I probably wouldnt be so stressed out if the average wedding wasn’t along the lines of $28k now a day.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
@Daisymh: Okay, here’s what we shall do 🙂 Take a deep breath! 😉
Toss away all bridal magazines or any other suggestive timeline guidebooks. Focus on fun! FI reminded me that engagement isn’t a stress rehearsal. It should be enjoyed and cherished because it’s the shortest period of time between a relationship and marriage. Commitment to marry is very huge; it should be therefore celebrated!
I looked at ONE bridal magazine and was quick to realize that I will never have the same wedding as the ones I’ve attended, but that’s okay. No weddings are exactly the same nor different from each other as it involves two important people: bride and groom. (To be honest, the magazine was only useful to find dress inspiration)
Involve your groom. It’s only fun! 🙂 FI and I just went to an art supply and drafting store to get blank postcards for invites. So, so much cheaper than going straight to a wedding stationer’s store. The stationer was going to charge $3 to $12 PER card! We will be spending less than $3 per postcard after postage once it’s all said and done.
Anything “wedding” in front of it will have a crazy mark-up %.
Our bargain hunts include:
– Something old: a handheld mirror
– Cake Server and knife set (never used)
For me, personally, I will be prioritizing guests’ comfort over pretty chairs. Since I’m having an outdoor wedding ceremony, I would rather spend the money to rent extra chairs instead of spending double the money on chair covers.
This is my mantra: A smiling bride is a happy bride!
Post # 6
I think wedding planning is really, really fun once you know what you’re doing. I’m starting to advocate a project managment approach (I work around large scale project managers) because it helps you work out upfront what you want, and gives a good framework to deliver it.
Basically, I recommend a 4 step process:
1. Agree to what you want the day to be (project charter)
2.. Know what that looks like, and make the key decisions early (15% design, things like venue, officiant, source of big items like the dress)
3. Organise everything else based on the big picture (85% design, detailed things like decorations, confirming vendors)
4. Have an awesome wedding day (100% design)
I can email you my tools (cool excel spreadsheet and our project charter) if you like?
There are also some helpful apps. I used plandroid (if you’re not part of the iphone club) which sets out recommended dates to do things.
Post # 7
@Daisymh: Congrats on planning your wedding. It’s great you’ve figured out the size of your guest list – from there I would figure out your budget, and try to lock down a venue. You have plenty of time so you can afford to do a lot of research. I might consider booking a photographer early too. However, I wouldn’t book to many things before the 1 year mark, because you might find better prices or options later.
Post # 8
@Daisymh: Go to weddingwire.com and start a checklist. They help you pick out everything on a time line. Good luck!