(Closed) Wedding plans gone awry…

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: What would you do?
    Plan the wedding for August 24th 2013, hopefully it will work out! : (23 votes)
    96 %
    Plan the wedding for August 2014, its only 18 months get over it. : (1 votes)
    4 %
    other... post your option that is better than mine! : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    8580 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    My wedding is in 2014, so im biased. Although planning WAY ahead gives you ALOT of time to perfect everything, and you don’t feel so rushed. What are the drawbacks of having the wedding is 2014?

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    8580 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    We planned ours so far in advance because most of fi’s family is 2200 miles away.. we wanted PLENTY of time to make sure everyone knows about it. We’re actually going to send the STDS 1 year in advance.

    I think you should weight in your decisions. How likely is she to come in 13 vs 14? If the chance is higher in ’14, and you can’t stand to NOT have her there, I’d go ’14.

    Also, maybe you could ask the venue to book at ’13’s prices.. My venue charged is ’12 prices because we booked in ’12.

    I hope you figure something out, it sucks to think that some folks might not be able to make it, esp. if you wouldn’t dream of NOT having them there.

    Post # 6
    Member
    8316 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I would just plan for this year since your MOH can come for the weekend of the wedding. Even if she arrives the morning of the wedding and leaves the next day, at least she will be there. I would cut back your expectations of what she might need to do in the lead up and on the day of the wedding and it should all be fine. Will it be a little stressful for her (and you) of course but I am sure if she is a good friend she will be willing to have one hectic weekend.

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    12821 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Which is more important – getting married sooner, or having your MOH there?  it’s a really tough decision to make, but once you make that decision, you’ll know what to do.

    IMO, you can’t plan your wedding around everyone’s schedules.  I would go ahead with the plans as they are, hope your MOH can make it, and be understanding if she can’t.

    Post # 9
    Member
    8316 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    But if you get married on a Saturday (the 24th) then she can just fly in for the wedding even if it is the day of the wedding (but preferably the Friday night) which shouldn;t interfer with scholl (as it would be M-F).

    Post # 10
    Member
    7796 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Do not plan your wedding around a friend! For all you know she won’t be available in Aug 2014 for some other reason. Pick the date which works best for *you* (which sounds like Aug 24 2013), and she will get there if she can. I cannot conceive of delaying marriage for a whole year just so one person can be there.

    Post # 11
    Member
    623 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Isn’t there a certain number of classes that you can miss per semester without it affecting your grade?

    Surely she could be ‘sick’ on Friday, and fly out on the Thursday after her classes finish.

    If she has a break in early August she could also visit and at that time you could have all the other wedding related parties. You might want to offer her help with airfares if she does decide to visit you twice in a short period of time.

    Goodluck.

    Post # 13
    Member
    23 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @lovelorlo:  I’m probably one of the more impatient brides-to-be but I say go for 2013. Have faith that it’ll begins with your MOH. you technically have all of the information that you need. You know that the venue price will go up in another year.  However, you don’t know what other major changes may come a year from now. If you really want to be married sooner than later than go for it. Your fiancé is about to be the most important person in your life.  This will all be just fine. Friday may feel a littunion conventional but not terrible. Might even end up costing less. 🙂

    Post # 14
    Member
    1044 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My best friend had a baby a week before my wedding, so was unable to make it. She originally asked me if I would change the wedding date to accomodate her. As much as it was hard to get married without her by my side, the day was amazing and ultimately, we ended up married and celebrating the day with some amazing people.

    This is a celebration of you and your husband-to-be. There are likely going to be very important people who can’t be there for one reason or another, but you can only do so much.

    The only people you should plan the wedding around IMO are you, your FI and immediate family.

     

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