Post # 1
I need some advice on how to list my family on our wedding programs.
I’ve never had a great relationship with my mom, and my aunt raised me from 5th grade until I moved away to college. I would like to recognize her on our wedding programs in some way to let her and everyone know how much I appreciate her & how much she’s done for me. To complicate things, my mom just informed me last week that she will not be attending the wedding. So now I’m wondering if I need to list her in the wedding party section. I realize she is still my parent, but when I think wedding party, I think people who are present at the wedding. Another thing I’m wondering about is how to list my dad – he died when I was 12. At first I had him listed as The late XXXXX XXXXX, but then thought maybe I should remove him from that section & place him in the memorial section.
Any advice would be VERY appreciated.
Post # 3
This is a toughie. Let’s see…here’s one possibility.
On the part of the program where you list people, you could do the standard parents of the bride, parents of the groom, grandparents of the bride, grandparents of the groom, or however you were planning on listing those. Then, you could do Aunt of the Bride to place her right up there with your VIP family members.
In terms of listing your parents, I’d go ahead and say, Parents of the Bride, Mrs. Ahulen’s Mom and the late Mr. Ahulen’s Dad. You could still include your dad in the memorial section of your program.
Then, list “Wedding Party,” as those actually in the wedding party, like the bridesmaids, groomsmen, and any flower girls or ring bearers if you have them.
I know you family situation is super complicated, so I know this may not work for you. I’m just thinking that, down the line, you may look back and wish they they had all had, at the least, name recognition in your program.
Post # 4
It is a toughie! Thanks for the suggestions. I started a draft of the program & right now I have my fiance’s parents & my mom listed under parents, and made a line for the aunt of the bride as well as bridal escort. I ended up taking my dad off of the wedding party section & only have him listed in the memorial section now. Not sure if I’m going to keep it this way, but it’s a start, I guess. I really appreciate your feedback! Thanks!
Post # 5
I hope it’s not to late to way in on this. I think you would feel a lot better in the futer if you honored your Mother even if she doesn’t deserve it. At least you’ve done your part and will have nothing to regret later on.