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Aw... vent away. that totally sucks!!! In the span of a lifetime that year will feel like nothing but I know that until then it will feel like for-ev-er!
Ok honey I can completely relate and let me tell you, it does suck!
We got engaged last Easter and planned on getting married the same year, Sept 12 of 2009 because my FI was deploying later that fall. Well, he was never completely sold on getting married before he left and then being away the whole first year of our marriage and we decided to just wait til he came back and not rush the wedding. Well, that ended up pushing our wedding back 19 months or 1 year and 7 months!!! Yea I was not happy but we had no choice because of his deployment and then making sure the date was pushed out enough to give him leeway with coming home and then I'll be in my last semester of school (6 yr plan) so we decided to just wait until June.
I was really depressed and upset over it but I've accepted it and am actually happy we waited. We played up our engagement really big with engagements parties, e-pics, and it's nice not to rush and I'll have everything done by the end of the summer and be able to focus on school. It's actually nice to have something big to plan while he's gone.
Hang in there, I know it sucks really bad but once you accept it and move forward, you'll feel better. I know it's hard to be positive and all that now but you will get there, I can tell you that from experience with it myself! I went through all emotions times ten like you are now, so I know how it feels!
*hugs* !!!!
It'll get better, just hang in there and all you can do now is make the best of it! I promise it'll be ok and when it's all said and done, you're going to have a wonderful wedding and be so happy! Maybe you can do what I did, play up your engagement with parties and pictures and things. I can tell you that being engaged now a year, I seriously cannot believe how fast it's gone by.
I'm glad you came to the hive, that's what we're here for so feel free to vent and get it out!!!
Aw thanks guys! I really am trying to stay positive, bc like Corgi said, it the grand scheme of things that year will be nothing and I would rather my family and friends know that I do understand and care about what curve balls have been thrown their way.
@Corgi - Thanks, I definitely feel like its so far away and its gonna for sure feel like "for-ev-er" (Sandlot style) lol especially since I pretty much have most things done and set up for eerything to just fall into place.
@mrsmarray- Thanks for the advice! I love the idea of, like you said, not being rushed and playing up the engagment...thats something I will for sure take into consideration and do!
Oh, I am so sorry. :( The girls are right, in the long run a year will not seem like a big deal but I am sure it sucks right now. Look at it this way, you get a whole year longer to be engaged and hang out with us in the hive. You get to hold on to that pre-wedding excitement for just a little longer.
awww, i'm sorry! i know that must be so frustrating. BUT i'm happy to have you as a fellow October 2011 bride :D
I know how you feel! The same thing happened with us...I wanted to do a destination wedding in Cancun this year...close friends and family only...But no one really wanted (or could afford) to go...So we made the decision to push the wedding to next year (2011) which is almost two years after the first date we originally picked (9/4/09). Waiting sucks, but it does give you a chance to save up more money and just enjoy being engaged. You'll be married for a lifetime, but engaged for not so long.
SAMe here! our orignal date was 10-10-10 a sunday but we couldnt afford it. money would have been SOOO SUPER TIGHT! we pushed it back to 11-11-11 i understand you about it being so far away and wanting to plan plan and plan now
@shannon1126- YAY!!! finally i've found a date twin!!! so far on the Oct. 2011 boards i didn't have one yet :)
we should totally keep in touch and review our planning progress!!!! 
@Medina - Ugh I completely share the sentiments that you are feeling, its no fun at all, but in a way its such a relief
@krissybee -I completely agree!!!! That would be great! yay!
yes its so hard. i want to book everything NOW and get flowers and everything i have to step back and say little by little so i am not in debt or not eating food for a week LOL
I'm sorry you had to push it back but it's better to make sure that his family would be able to make it if that is important to you!
hahaha I know exactly what you mean, we decided against the ramen noodle diet =)
Aw girl, I'm sorry! I can kind of relate. My FI and I got engaged in Oct of 2009 and we really wanted to get married this August, but money just wouldn't allow it. So we're January of 2011 now, though I know that's nothing compared to pushing it back another year. I hate having such a long engagement, but like previously mentioned, it's nice not having to rush the engagement and the wedding plans. For me, I feel like our engagement is going by very slowly, but everyone else involved in the wedding says they feel like it's flying by. I hope everything works out for you and your FI. I wish you both the best!
That stinks :(
I know you're dissapointed but hopefully it will fly by and you can stay busy with projects and planning!
In my opinion, its hard to organize a wedding around all family & friends being able to come. What happens if next year finances are worse? I'm not sure of the details, but if times are hard now they still may be hard next year. Can you have a different wedding location/city/state that will make it less expensive to go to? If you want to get married sooner & want people to be able to afford to go than maybe you'll need to sacrifice the venue & get married semi-locally. Or if you don't mind the wait, then at least you have a long time to plan everything out! Its also hard cause there may be some people next year who can't afford to go, even with a year & a half notice. Reguardless, I hope you enjoy wedding planning :).
We would have a local wedding if we didnt have family all over the place. All of his family is from California, Nevada, and Colorado while mines in Oregon and Oklahoma. I have came to terms with the idea of waiting. We are able to get a little more in order with my schooling and what not. Thanks everyone for the advice and kind words!
Aww that sucks, but be happy you'll have to time to do it just the way you want, and more time to enjoy being engaged :)
I am a Vegas bride too and we had the same venue.
But I didn't start out in Vegas. My partner is from very far away (New Zealand) and our friends and family are also all over. And due to various issues, I had both to postpone our wedding and move it to Vegas. I was very sad at first but postponing was actually a good thing. We got to be more relaxed about planning - I actually hated wedding planning and first but now, I really like it and I'm happy I get to do it for longer!
I don't know if that makes you feel better but I did want to share my own experience.
wow that sucks. who wouldn't be able to make it? if it was my parents then I could understand pushing it back, but a whole year? really? if it was some distant relative then i'd just leave it at the day it was scheduled. you can't please everyone!
@wildstyle - I kept the venue just pushed the date and they were happy to do so. Yay, bc I was a tad worried
@amariem - We moved it up a year bc Oct is my favorite month and I love love love the fall. My grandma (dad's mom) was diagnosed with breast cancer during the holidays in 2009 and is going through treatment. While I knew they wouldnt be able to make it either way, my grandma insisted we still have it on our scheduled date whenever we all found out about the cancer. Well since then my dad has had to take on some huge responsibilities to help them out because of their insurance not covering the full cost of treatment. One big one is, my aunt (dad's sister) was killed in a car accident almost 2 years ago and my grandparents now have custody of her 16 year old son, and my dad is now having to take on him and he already has a family of his own to support (my little brother and my mentally handicap step-sister) so I dont want to put more stress and financial burden on my dad. Also we have some wedding party members that are in some tightening spots, one recently filed for divorce and incurring a custody battle over his little boy and he is the FI's best friend.
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Originally the FI and I decided on 10-16-10 and I have gotten pretty attached to that date, however due to some unforeseen circumstances with family and friends and their finances we decided to push the wedding until October 2011!!!!!! Thats so far away! I feel like just when I was getting close, it gets pushed outta my reach again. After sitting down with the FI today and talking everything through, we realize that this is the best decision. We love our family and they are VERY important to us and its important we dont put them in a tough spot while they are trying to figure out how to come to Vegas to our wedding. I would feel terrible to know that I put a financial burden on any family or friends just because they were trying to attend my wedding, or worse not be able to come!! Luckily the places we have our deposits down we still intend to use and they allowed us to just use the deposit for the new date set, which is still not determined but we know it will be October bc FI is indifferent but thats my favorite month. I just need to vent a little about it because I have been forced to parade around with this "Oh its ok, I understand it is completely for the better" or "Its a blessing in disguise and everything happens for a reason" attitude and beaming with positive glee since having to let everyone know. Thanks girlys! But I am def sticking around the Hive bc I am too addicted to leave now plus I still have a wedding to finish planning lol