(Closed) Wedding pushed back…a whole year!! =(

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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11327 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Aw… vent away. that totally sucks!!! In the span of a lifetime that year will feel like nothing but I know that until then it will feel like for-ev-er!

Post # 4
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928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ok honey I can completely relate and let me tell you, it does suck!

We got engaged last Easter and planned on getting married the same year, Sept 12 of 2009 because my FI was deploying later that fall. Well, he was never completely sold on getting married before he left and then being away the whole first year of our marriage and we decided to just wait til he came back and not rush the wedding. Well, that ended up pushing our wedding back 19 months or 1 year and 7 months!!! Yea I was not happy but we had no choice because of his deployment and then making sure the date was pushed out enough to give him leeway with coming home and then I’ll  be in my last semester of school (6 yr plan) so we decided to just wait until June.

I was really depressed and upset over it but I’ve accepted it and am actually happy we waited. We played up our engagement really big with engagements parties, e-pics, and it’s nice not to rush and I’ll have everything done by the end of the summer and be able to focus on school. It’s actually nice to have something big to plan while he’s gone.

Hang in there, I know it sucks really bad but once you accept it and move forward, you’ll feel better. I know it’s hard to be positive and all that now but you will get there, I can tell you that from experience with it myself! I went through all emotions times ten like you are now, so I know how it feels!

*hugs* !!!!

It’ll get better, just hang in there and all you can do now is make the best of it! I promise it’ll be ok and when it’s all said and done, you’re going to have a wonderful wedding and be so happy! Maybe you can do what I did, play up your engagement with parties and pictures and things. I can tell you that being engaged now a year, I seriously cannot believe how fast it’s gone by.

I’m glad you came to the hive, that’s what we’re here for so feel free to vent and get it out!!!

Post # 6
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494 posts
Helper bee

Oh, I am so sorry. 🙁 The girls are right, in the long run a year will not seem like a big deal but I am sure it sucks right now. Look at it this way, you get a whole year longer to be engaged and hang out with us in the hive. You get to hold on to that pre-wedding excitement for just a little longer.

Post # 7
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2404 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

awww, i’m sorry! i know that must be so frustrating. BUT i’m happy to have you as a fellow October 2011 bride 😀

Post # 8
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2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I know how you feel! The same thing happened with us…I wanted to do a destination wedding in Cancun this year…close friends and family only…But no one really wanted (or could afford) to go…So we made the decision to push the wedding to next year (2011) which is almost two years after the first date we originally picked (9/4/09). Waiting sucks, but it does give you a chance to save up more money and just enjoy being engaged. You’ll be married for a lifetime, but engaged for not so long.

Post # 10
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205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

SAMe here! our orignal date was 10-10-10 a sunday but we couldnt afford it. money would have been SOOO SUPER TIGHT! we pushed it back to 11-11-11 i understand you about it being so far away and wanting to plan plan and plan now

Post # 11
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2404 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@shannon1126- YAY!!! finally i’ve found a date twin!!! so far on the Oct. 2011 boards i didn’t have one yet 🙂

we should totally keep in touch and review our planning progress!!!! Laughing

Post # 13
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205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

yes its so hard. i want to book everything NOW and get flowers and everything i have to step back and say little by little so i am not in debt or not eating food for a week LOL

Post # 14
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18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry you had to push it back but it’s better to make sure that his family would be able to make it if that is important to you!

Post # 16
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664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Aw girl, I’m sorry! I can kind of relate. My FI and I got engaged in Oct of 2009 and we really wanted to get married this August, but money just wouldn’t allow it.  So we’re January of 2011 now, though I know that’s nothing compared to pushing it back another year. I hate having such a long engagement, but like previously mentioned, it’s nice not having to rush the engagement and the wedding plans. For me, I feel like our engagement is going by very slowly, but everyone else involved in the wedding says they feel like it’s flying by. I hope everything works out for you and your FI. I wish you both the best!

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