Post # 1
So, we just visited what I would like to be our reception/ceremony site (a destination wedding in Hilton Head). And when we talked to the coordinator there, we stated that we had a $10,000 budget for this wedding. When we left Hilton Head last week, she seemed confident that she could do the wedding for $10,000, and then when we got the quote this morning, the total cost was $15,000. ($10,000 with food/beverage, then another $2,500 ceremony and setup fee, and taxes).
Now we estimated taxes and whatnot to be about $2,500, so we thought that she would be over, but are we getting raked over the coals? And can we negotiate? Where can we cut without sacrificing the experience?
Post # 4
YES- Negotiate! Can you do a buffet instead of plated dinner? Can you have less pricey food (i.e. chicken instead of steak). Also, you’re getting married in September, can you negotiate that it’s not the wedding high season of summer? If you can give us some more details, maybe we can help you!
Also, I would bring it up that she said she could keep it under 10 k. Do you have it in writing (even an e-mail?)
Post # 5
I would say “you stated that 10000 was manageable and that’s really my firm budget. Can we bring it closer to that number?”
She probably thought you would go over your budget since you loved the place (like many brides do) and since it wasn’t tooooo much over.
Ask her to waive the ceremony fee – my hotel did. Similar pricing to yours. (10k food/bev)
Post # 6
@Pearberry: Thanks ladies! I will check if I have it in an email. Good idea. We are getting married on an off week in October. And we did that because she said that she could save us a bunch on the wedding. Which is fine by us.
We already are having a buffet with a less expensive option for food. We are doing full bar. But that’s all fine. Where the hidden cost came in was the ceremony fee and the rental fee.
I reallly want this venue, and don’t want to scare her off, but our $15,000 soup to nuts wedding just became $20,000. . . and that’s not ok. . .
Just wondering if the quote she sent is open to negotiations. . . is this like negotiating salary with a new job? Or haggling the price of a car? Or is this stuff set in stone. . .
Post # 7
@Ulibaddog: The rental/set-up fees are always negotiable, and can usually be waived. The F&B is probably a $10k minimum, so you’re usually not got to get any wiggle room on that. I would think you could at least get the ceremony space fee waived, if not the set-up, and then taxes/resort fees are going to be what they are going to be regardless.
Post # 8
YES! Tell them your budget and ask if they can work around that
Post # 9
Sadly, most people don’t think about taxes/fees, so she probably figured you meant $10K without them, not with them. The good news is that if you cut off a large chunk of the $2.5K, the taxes will go down a little as well.
Post # 10
@Ulibaddog: definitely have a chat with her!
You TOLD her… yet she came back with a number beyond it… NOT FUNNY!
Be nice about it because of course you want her to work & be creative with the numbers & etc for you but I wouldn’t stand to go over budget that much because you told her & she was confident she could deliver… and hasn’t.