Post # 1
I was thinking of having a raffle at either my bridal shower or my wedding. The guests will purchase raffle tickets for a dollar that are good towards a drawing for a gift card. All proceeds would go to us to start our life together. Would this be too tacky to have at the wedding reception or should I keep it as bridal shower thing? Also, if you think its completetly tacky as people would think were trolling for gifts let me know. Thanks.
Post # 3
i think its a bit tacky to do at a wedding. however, i think it could work for the bridal shower especially if someone else executes it on your behalf.
Post # 4
Honestly? I’d call that very tacky at a wedding reception.
At a shower? maybe. But this shouldn’t be up to you – this is up to the hosts. Maybe present it as an idea to the host, but it is completely (and only – this is not something you can or should set up for yourself) up to her whether or not to include it.
Post # 5
I agree – your guests will have already supplied you with a gift in order to help you start your life together. But go for it at the shower!
Post # 6
what’s the trend where you live? is this pretty common or no? i know things like Dollar Dances are more common in some areas, so if it’s something that happens at most weddings you go to, then ok. otherwise, i’d say it’s probably something better suited for a shower.
Post # 7
I’d say tacky at either the shower or the wedding. Think about it–your guests at either have already bought you a gift and now you are asking them to also buy raffle tickets. I think an extra $1 per person is not worth offending people.
Post # 8
Don’t do it at either event-people already feel enough pressure to spend alot on shower and wedding gifts. Try to find another way to cut back on costs, people will not respond well at all to a raffle.
Post # 9
i think it is tacky to do this for money. I was planning to do a raffle but just because we thought our guests would have some fun with a raffle where they would win a small prize that we buy for them. We wouldn’t charge them (we were advised against it even then). However, I’ve been to weddings where the couples have dollar dance and a bird cage where people can drop in money to help the couples with their honeymoon. I still think its tacky to do these still, but i’ve seen them done before and they were pretty successful at least.
Post # 10
Yeah… it all sounds like asking for money to me. Which is tacky. A raffle sounds like halftime at the high school basketball game, not like a wedding reception. I personally would be sort of shocked. The gifts on your registry are supposed to help you start your lives together… and I would assume that some people will just give gift cards or checks (that happens a lot in my family). You don’t say what kind of expenses you have, but maybe registering at Home Depot or Sears (building supplies, appliances) would be a better way to go.
Post # 11
i’d advise not to do it at either – unless it’s normal in your circle of family and friends… uhhh but even if it is, i would still vote for not doin it.. sounds like they’re paying a dollar towards their own gift card – that is if their name is even drawn..
i agree with registering at sears or home depot/lowes if those stores carry what you guys really want…
Post # 12
Beyond tacky. i’d cringe if I saw this done in any manner- it’s a wedding, not a pancake supper!
Post # 13
If the proceeds went to charity, it might be more accepted. I would not do it at either the shower or the reception if it wasn’t for charity.
Post # 14
WHile I find it clever, I too find it tacky for a wedding. Now, that being said I think if you’re having a way laid back event, non traditional sorta thing then this could work. But not if you are having your reception at a fancy country club or upscale hotel, no.
I would say go for it at the Bridal Shower – but I would let people know about it before hand and maybe give them the opportunity to not buy you a gift and instead buy raffel tickets. I know if I showed up to something like that with a $50-$100 gift and be asked to hand over even more money I would be a bit put off. I’m on a tight budget even when I’m not planning a wedding, so alerting people to it would be a good idea.
Post # 15
I think it’s tacky at either event.
Post # 16
anything that asks for money from your guests is tacky.