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I agree, I think inviting people to a reception only is rude. I think, however, a more casual party for your friends would be great! (My uncle got married in teh Caribbean then hosted a casual party at a bar for us all when he got back- we LOVED this!)
If he is dead-set on having them at the ceremony, you might back them up to each other- like Fri doing the ceremony and fam reception, then saturday a picnic, or rent a restaurant, or something at a bar, for your friends. (Or this could be Sat/Sun). That way you can invite family to everything, but friends to the ceremony on Fri and a casual reception at ______ on Saturday.
Thank you. The question is regarding inviting friends to the WEDDING only, not reception. I appreciate your feedback.
oh, I've heard a few times you can't invite anyone to the ceremony that isn't invited to the reception
I'd just have a party later w/ pictures from the ceremony & a friends only crowd, maybe even at a bar, instead of a traditional reception
I agree - it's rude to invite guests to the ceremony and not the reception.
I do think a separate party either before or after the wedding for your friends to attend may work - then they could at least be a part of celebrating with you in some way.
I think that if the reception is immediately following the wedding, then yes, it would be rude not to include them. But if the reception is later or on another day, then it's not rude to invite them. Talking to the friends also would help because you can explain to them that you want to celebrate as a family and save some money. They might understand and want to still be there to watch you two join together!
I think you go all-or-nothing. But you can always have a casual "we got married!" party later that would include all of your friends.
As it's been said before, bad taste to not invite to both if they're back to back! I would recommend some sort of casual thing, like a wine and cheese party at your house to celebrate your marriage shortly after you return from your honeymoon.
Good luck with planning!
I agree that it would be in poor taste to invite your friends to the wedding and not the reception afterwards. If your FI must have your friends there....maybe you guys can expand the reception to family and close friends? Otherwise...just skip the invites to friends and just celebrate with them later.
I agree with you.
Either A. they will know you're having a reception they aren't invited to.
Or B. They will ask what you're doing after and you'll have to tell them "yeah..we're having a reception, but you arent invited."
Awkward.
This reminds me of a wedding that a co-worker was invited to, that included THREE "tiers" of guests: one set to the ceremony and reception, one set to the full reception, and one to ONLY the dancing part of the reception. People could not stop talking about how rude and tacky the whole thing was! Definitely all or nothing, IMO.
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Hello - my fiancee and I are planning our wedding. We have already decided that the reception will include our immediate family only. It is a second wedding for both of us and there would be SO many friends to include, so we decided to keep it simple and have family only for a sit down dinner reception. This still amounts to 25 people.
My concern is that my fiancee wishes to include our friends at the wedding, but of course, they won't be going to the dinner reception. I think this is in poor taste and they should be allowed to attend some type of celebration with us, not just attend the wedding and have to leave. I think it should be "all or nothing" with regards to everyone's attendance. The church doesn't allow alcohol, so we couldn't even do something like a small toast after. Your input is greatly appreciated.
Thank you!