Post # 1
I have attended 2 weddings this month and all I can say is seriously let your freaking guests eat and dance already! I’m glad I attended these weddings so I know what to do differently at mine. First off it’s completely ridiculous to make your “guests” sit for 2 hours at your reception before they are able to eat anything! Secondly how many people need to make speaches? While we all wait to flipping eat! Thirdly how many freaking private dances are you going to do???? Anyways at my reception my maid of honer and the best man are the ONLY ones aloud to make a toast. Also as soon as guests arrive they will be allowed to eat next we are only doing a first dance and that’s it. During my father daughter dance fellow fathers and daugthers will be able to join us. My last complaint is why are you letting family members cut your cake and serve it wearing no gloves sticking there dirty hands all over it? GROSS
Post # 3
here in the uk we usually sit down to eat around 2-3 pm for a 3 course dinner (wedding breakfast) that way people who’ve been all day don’t mind waiting until 8pm for the evening food. plus all the speeches are done after the wedding breakfast meal so people are nice and full. we will be doing a quick thank you in the evening for our evening reception guests (as some people who don’t come to the actual ceremony do come to the evening instead). i definately agree with the cake thing we are doing the cake cutting pic and then handing it over to the caterers to cut.
Post # 4
Normally there’s a cocktail hour before the dinner so that guests aren’t starving!!! I’ve never been to a wedding without one. In fact, I didn’t even eat my dinner at the last wedding because I hit the appetizers too hard. boo.
And I’d love to not have toasts other than my dad and my new husband’s, it’s the MOH and Best Man that want to do them.
Post # 5
I’m thinking to cut down on things it might go like this. People come in mingle a bit grab drinks and their seats. After a half hour we have our enterance and first dance. So thats like another 5 minutes. MOH and BestMan speaches. Like 5 mins each. 10 mins each MAX and only if they are SUPER awesome speeches. Seriously they don’t have to be super long. “My best friend, funny anectode, perfect for each other, done.” So thats like 45 mins to an hour. Then everyone gets their food. Once they are all munching away. Parents speeches are said and then we leave the mic open so that if anyone has anything to say they can say it WHILE we are all stuffing our faces. There may or may not be the parent child siblings after the food is finished. THEN every one parties down. Seriously, from the moment the doors open to guests and the venue to eating food is a ONE HOUR wait MAX.
BTW no cocktail hour for us, we arent Catholic but there will be a “Catholic Gap”, we are both Catholic school kids and have the “no first look!” tradition super engrained in us. No one will care though. ALL the weddings from both our grad classes have this gap (with no cocktail hour). Sometimes even three hours, just due to venue timings. We all live in the same town though so we don’t care. We break off into groups and go get our pre-drink on to cut down on cash bar costs and think of ways to smuggle in our own booze. Moahaha, so I dont feel guilty about the time gap.
Post # 6
@MarryMeTiffany: I would love to be a guest at your wedding! honestly! 🙂 that is how my vow renewal is going to go… no body is going to wait, its just going to be a party.
I remember my SIL wedding, we waited, with small children at the time, for a long time to eat, drink, and be merry. It was insanity!
our first wedding ppl waited, not that long, but too long for me… So no waiting! you are awesome for that! make sure your caterers know that its okay for people to eat. some caterers I think assume that no one can eat until the bride/groom are served.
Good lookin out! 🙂 Enjoy your day!
Post # 7
Agree, been to a wedding where we got there on time (6pm) and food didn’t come out till 8-9pm. 🙁 It was the most boring wedding too. I felt bad for the bride and groom but I don’t think they planned properly planned entertainment at all. People started leaving by 10pm (including myself, as I was yawning at around 9pm from lack of foood).
For my reception, I’ll be getting the food out early, cocktails at 6pm, then dinner by 7.30pm. People can make toasts while others are eating.
Post # 8
I went to my cousin’s wedding earlier in the year and, while it was lovely, we weren’t fed until we’d been there for two an a half hours and I was STARVING.
We’re having our ceremony at 3pm; champagne, ice cream and popcorn from 3:30-5pm; and hoping to serve up our wedding breakfast around 5:30. We’ll also have an evening buffet at around 9:30 in the evening.