Post # 1
FI & I have lived together for a few year and bought a house two years ago. It seems crazy to me to register for things that we already have. We were thinking about just creating a honeymoon registry but what if people would rather buy a gift, should I create a small registry or don’t worry about it?
Post # 3
@ecrowe1218: I would create a small registry for some things you might like to upgrade! Some people do prefer to buy a physical gift.
Honestly, I *prefer* to buy an actual gift, but I usually just give cash since I know that’s what I want, and I assume that’s what most brides and grooms would prefer, too. But there are definitely people who would rather buy you, like, the Le Creuset dutch oven that you’ll use forever instead of just writing you a check or buying part of your flight to your honeymoon. If you can think of some things you might want, like nicer towels or sheets, fancy cooking equipment and so on, then a small registry is a nice idea. But I wouldn’t register just for the sake of registering if everything is just going to go into the closet and never get used.
Post # 4
I would just do a small registry for a few new things or things you would want to upgrade. Usually people could use some extra sheets or maybe some new dishes, etc.
Post # 5
@ecrowe1218: I would create at least a small registry. Even if you feel like you have everything you need there must be some things you’d like to upgrade, or stuff that you want but would probably never purchase for yourself. Like KatieBklyn said, there are always going to be people who would like to give you an actual gift and with a registry they can be confident it will be something you actually want.
Post # 6
Just create a small one…. c’mon now, everyone could use an upgrade for some items they already have!
Post # 7
We were in a similar situation… we lived together and had a house.
Our families are pretty traditional, and in our area/social circle honeymoon regisitries (or any cash registry) would have been considered rude and tacky. We decided to set up a traditional registry for upgrades (got a Keurig- YAY!) as well as to stock up on linens- sheets, towels, etc. We made sure to have a wide range of price points as well.
I had planned to decline a bridal shower since we already share a home, but his mother insisted so I got quite a few registry gifts at the shower. Most people gave us checks or gift cards at the actual wedding, so it all worked out beautifully!
Post # 8
I wasn’t sure about doing a registry…but as we were at the store doing it, I realized there’s a lot of things that we might never buy ourselves but that item would be the one we would say to each other, “we could have used this item today!” I’m hoping most people come with money, anyways. 😉
Post # 9
@DaneLady: I think you handed it perfectly.
OP, definitely have a small registry. In my social circle, honeyfunds are considered taboo, as are any registries that straight-out ask for cash, but if it’s acceptable in your circle, then I think a honeyfund, with a traditional registry, is fine.
Post # 10
@ecrowe1218: make a small registry, and anyone who can’t get something off that will default to cash.
Post # 11
I’m in a similar boat. We have lived independently for quite a while and I’m an avid cook so there is no real need for household. Heck, I still have a lot from my previous marriage 14 years ago – especially quality kitchen items! With that said I’ll do a small registry anyway. This will be a time to register for new towels, new bedding, and other useful items for the two of us. We are not living together until we are married so it will be nice to unpack new items as we move in together.
Post # 12
Similar boat. We did a honeymoon registry and a small brick and mortar registry and an amazon registry. Honestly, we have more on the brick and mortat and amazon registries than I would have thought, but we’ve spent the last year purposefully not buying stuff and adding things to our mental registry, so we found a fair number of things that we wanted to get or upgrade. We also branched out from “typical” presents. Especially on amazon. We registered for board games and camping equipment and gardening tools and a surround sound speaker system. I’m also kind of excited because now I’ll have suggestions when my dad asks me what I want from Christmas! (I can never think of anything at the time)