Post # 1
Due to distance… currently FI and I live in different cities, he was not able to come. Frankly, it wouldn’t have made a difference as FI is not the biggest fan when it comes to shopping. I know his limits.
Me on the otherhand can spend hours shopping and tend to be very picky.
So I registered on my own and frankly enjoyed it… took my time but was relatively done 3ish hours later. While at the store (the Bay) there was another couple doing the same thing — boy was this couple not having a fun time. They were not agreeing on anything — at one point I felt sorry for the FI. I remember thinking that an argument was upon the horizon for these two… yup it happened in the store.
I had forgotten about this memory until today. I went by the Bay during my break and there were two couples doing their registry. One couple seemed to be doing alright… the other, well deer in headlights comes to mind. They honestly didn’t know what they wanted.
So I am curious…
1. Did both you and your FI go to the store together and register?
2. If you both did, did it go smoothly or were there a couple of bumps along the way?
3. If you opted to do it yourself, why?
4. If you opted to take someone else, aside from your FI, why?
As for my situation, FI did look over the registry online and basically gave me the go ahead on everything. I just added a couple of things I missed that he pointed out.
Post # 3
@MrsTickledPink: I can’t imagine doing it without him. It was fun to pick everything out and plan it out together. It’s a shame you couldn’t go together, but it’s nice you’re able to review everything online together. I would ask him to pick out a few things he really wants to add, so that way it’ll be partly him too.
Post # 4
We will be doing it together. I am sure that there will be a few bumps while doing it, but we will work it out and decide on things that would be best for us to have. I am super excited to start registering. I dont quite think FI really has any idea of what it all entails 🙂
Post # 5
@MrsTickledPink: 1. We did both go to the store and registered together. Though, honestly, I made most of the decisions because he was basically indifferent about everything except maybe 2 or 3 items.
2. It went smoothly for the most part. There were no problems between him and me while we were picking things out, but the sales girl followed us around the whole store and she was really awkward and pushy, so she was the cause of any “bumps,” not us.
Post # 6
We went together but I probably could have done it on my own and he wouldn’t have cared. The only thing he had a strong opinion on was our everyday dishes. As it was, I ended up editing a bunch of stuff online anyway.
Post # 7
We will be doing it together. I know we will need to make compromises so we need to be there to work decisions out together. We’ve talked about new dishes at least 200 times. I hate his dishes, he hates mine. we both have definate opinions On everything.
Post # 8
We registered at BB&B together. He would’ve rather been home watching the Broncos/Patriots game lol but he knew it was important to me for us to go together. He’s pretty much ones of those “if you’re happy, I’m happy” guys but he did have opinions on bed sheets and bath towels. It went smoothly…though one time he did wander off and start talking about the game to some other male employees. The BB&B sales associate assisting us was like, should we wait for him? And I was like, nah let’s keep going, he’s good lol. He wandered back just in time to help pick out a vacuum. 🙂
Post # 9
my husband and i were long distance before we got married too. we started out by just looking online and showing each other things and getting the other’s opinion (skype made this so much easier!). once we had narrowed things down a bit, we hit the stores together. we knocked out most of our registry (2 stores) in one day during one of his visits- it was a veeerrry looong day and there was a lot of, “no, i hate that,” “we don’t need this,” “that’s ugly,” (especially when it came to bedding and shower curtains, haha). but we never got into any fights or arguments in the stores and we were always able to come to a compromise or find something we both liked.
i would add/delete things on my own (either online or in the store) once in a while after that first visit, but it was all little things i knew he didn’t care about.
Post # 10
I registered for everything online…but no, he didn’t really help out at all. Honestly though we don’t really need anything except stuff for our house projects and Home Depot doesn’t have a wedding registry.
Post # 11
He’s going to be at least as involved as I am. He’s a great cook and a foodie so he’ll have opinions on kitchen stuff, and I trust his taste in home decor at least as much as my own – I mean his stylish bachelor pad was a good selling point when we were first dating, haha.
It will probably take us forever, and we might stress about some things, but I think it will be a really fun time. Sorry to say we’re that horrible yuppie couple whose favorite mall activity is going around Crate & Barrel making insufferable comments about design.
Post # 12
Hmmm we’ve lived together for 5 years and I almost never consult him on anything I get for the home unless it’s furniture. Over the years I have also already invested in things like switching to Waterford crystal glassware,Egyptian cotton sheets, and very nice pots and pans so our registry wont be very large. I can’t really see him coming with me to register. I may narrow things down to my two favorite fine china patterns then ask his opinions on those two but I wouldn’t take him in to see 50 patterns and ask him to pick. He just DOESN’T care. As he says to me “Boo, I am perfectly happy to defer to your better taste.” And I’m perfectly happy letting him. Will I ask him what HE wants on the registry as far as cool toys or gadgets or stuff, of course. But then I would write it down and take his list with me. He wouldn’t want to spend three hours in BB&B registering and I would never ask him to. Yes it’s our wedding and it’s about spending the rest of our lives together, but after making a home together for 5 years and having a system down for this type of shopping it seems silly to suddenly do it out of character just because registering together is “the thing to do”.
Post # 13
I started our registry online, but have shown him and talked to him about everything except one thing…I put a Keurig on it and he HATES them, lol. We are just doing one at Target for a few things, we’ve lived together for years so we don’t really need much. But, there is a local fleet store that we are going to do one at as well and that one we have to go to the store to do it. We will both go when we do it.
Post # 14
@MrsTickledPink: He came with me when we first did it, but then I ended up changing almost everything. I always asked him, though. Like I sent a text like: “hey, do you care what type of shower curtain we have on our registry?” And he would always answer “no, lol, why? do what you want.”
He doesn’t really care about the decorating part. I do a lot more. He only says that he doesn’t want it to be too girly.
Post # 15
DH is very opinionated about things that I really wouldn’t guess. Like, silverware. He wanted to come so he could get his input on everything.
Post # 16
I did some preliminary registring on line, and then we went to the store together to decide on some other items. My FI was very interested in finishing up what he wanted for his bar.