Post # 1
If you’re not including your registry info on or with the invitation, how are you spreading the word? What does proper etiquette say about this subject? I’d really like to know what is proper and traditional, as I do not want any of my guests to feel obligated to buy me a gift, but if it’s acceptable to do so, then I don’t mind adding my registries. Let me know what you think, thanks!
Post # 3
Most invitations I have received have the registry info on a little piece of paper or a card tucked inside the invitation. I have never seen an invitatiion with registry info on it.
Post # 4
Yeah, I’ve always seen a little attached paper or card, but from what I’ve been reading, it’s ‘tacky’ to do even that? I’m confused!
Post # 5
I would put all the information on your website and have a card in the invitation sweet tell people for more information please see our website.
Post # 6
I’m not a fan of including registry info with the invitation. I didn’t do this.
Instead, I included this information on my wedding website. I also informed my mom and honor attendants. Word of mouth is an effective way to spread the word.
In addition, with the internet, it is really easy to find a registry.
Between word of mouth, the wedding website (which isn’t a necessity), and the internet, I think people will figure it out with out me having to include it with the invite.
Post # 7
We had several people who called or emailed to let us know they received the invite and to ask about registry info. Our parents have also spread the word and if we had a website we woulda put it on there as well.
Post # 8
I’m going to include a small card saying ‘For additional information, please visit our wedding website at http://www.meandFI.com and list my registry info there, along with directions, maps, hotels, etc. This is basically an indirect way of letting your guests know if they need to without breaking etiquette…I think lol.
Post # 9
@Jadore….my answer is that only you know your target audience. When I sent out my sister’s invites I include the registry info as an additional insert in the wedding invitation. That’s because I knew that the majority of her guests are not internet savvy and prefer you to let them know, in plain English, where they can go to buy a gift. Therefore, if I didn’t include the insert, nobody was going to try and figure out where the information was. Everyone LOVED her invite suite and nobody thought including the registry info was tacky.
Post # 10
Like @LpCutipie, we’re just relying on word of mouth. I personally would not put registry information in an invitation. However, I just got an invitation with registry information printed on directly on the invitation itself, and I wasn’t offended or put out by it at all.
Post # 11
We included wording on our “Directions” insert that directs guests to our wedding website.
Post # 12
First, the word “tacky” is incredibly overused to the point that it has no meaning and is frequently used for things it doesn’t even apply to.
That said, it is considered improper and rude to include registry information in the invites as it makes the couple look greedy. Information on where the couple is registered is spread via word of mouth. Attendants are given the information and guests know to ask them, or ask the parents (if they were given the information as well).
Post # 13
If you “care” about following the etiquette rules, technically, you shouldn’t put your registry info in the invitation (including as a separate card in the invitation). You can spread the word thru word of mouth. And most younger people know you can find registries easily by searching on weddingchannel.com or similar sites.
If you don’t really care, or if it’s normal for your family/friends, just include it as a separate card with your invite – you wouldn’t be the first bride to do so.
Post # 14
Is including your registry info. in your invitation helpful to your guests? Yes. Is it tacky to include it? Yes. Links to your registries on a wedding website and word of mouth should suffice. Plus most woman who have gotten married in the past few years, have friends who have gotten married, or are family of someone who has gotten married knows weddingchannel.com is an easy search too.
Post # 15
When I talk about what etiquette says, my family looks at me like I lost my mind. They all expect to find in insert with the invite with the information. They do not want to guess where I am registered. So, to save the headache, I will include the registry info.
Post # 16
My only issue with the whole website thing is that FI and I have a LOT of older relatives, like ages 60+, who just won’t get it.
Ugh, I don’t know what to do.