Post # 1
I got married about 2 months ago and it was truly a wonderful day. I was surrounded by the best people I have ever known! Anyways, I am having issues with getting over little details that didn’t go right. Some of my bridesmaids were sick, my mother fell down the steps, we had a tent that lost heat in a section for a few minutes… I know these things are not major but I wish there was some way I could go back in time and fix them!! I keep asking my bridesmaids if they had fun and all my friends and ofcourse they said yes. But I cant help comparing my wedding to my friends’ weddings who are coming up or have passed. My wedding went to pretty late and we didnt go back to the hotel until 1am. So there was no after party like there has been at every other wedding I have been too. Alot of people were not really drunk and wild. I mean I keep thinking this all made it horrible which is completely illogical. And I am sitting here two months later, torturing my friends about it! Do you all have some regrets like this?
Post # 3
I think it’s completely normal to have those feelings – a few Bees have even written posts about it.
1) I have never been to a wedding with an after-party. I’m sure they’re done, but they’re not the norm, so if your wedding went late it’s not a big deal.
2) I’m sorry about your BMs and your mom, but I don’t think there’s really anything that could have prevented what went wrong. Unfortunately, sh*t happens and we have to make the best of it.
3) Some weddings just have a different vibe, but be glad no one got so drunk they did something to completely ruin your wedding. There’s a viral video going around of a drunk guest bringing a whole wedding tent crashing down and giving the bride a bloody nose. Eek!
Post # 4
I too have a few regrets from my wedding. I just got back our professional pictures and there is only one shot of just and me and my Mom. Also the back of my dress wasn’t laced correctly in some pictures. You just have to think of all the things that went perfectly well and the fun, surprising things that happened.
Post # 5
Did you want everyone to be drunk and wild!? Anyway, I think it is perfectly natural to look back on the event and single out the little details that didn’t go quite as you wanted. However, I’m sure with a little bit more time you will be able to forget the minor issues and be able to reflect on the overall awesomeness that was your wedding day.
Post # 6
I think it’s natural to have regrets. You invest a lot of money in the ceremony/reception and hope everyone had the time of their lives. Just remember that the most important thing is that you were able to be married with family and friends who love and support you. It sounds like everyone was there who was really important to you, which is not always the case for other brides!
Post # 7
You’re going through the normal post wedding depression (PWD). I think almost every brides does at one point or another.
I didn’t think I would. I was really confident in all the details in the days leading up, and everything else, I was perfectly okay with things that didn’t go as planned. I was just happy to get married and put the planning behind me because I was SO tired of it.
PWD hit me a couple weeks after getting back from our honeymoon. Our flowers weren’t at all what I asked for. I second-guessed my hairstyle. I was mad at myself for not getting my bangs trimmed a couple days before, even though I knew I should have (they looked outta control at times). And worst of all, I didn’t ask my doctor for a mild anti-anxiety med before the wedding (I have a history of excitement and nerves making me physically ill). Needless to say, I was sick during our rehearsal dinner and the morning of our wedding (which kind of ruined taking in all the fun).
BUT, I got over it. It took me a couple of months, but I got over it. Eventually, you just kind of accept things as they were, and it helps that we STILL get compliments on our wedding. It sounds like everyone at your own wedding had a blast, and unfortunately, we’re our own worst critics, right? 🙂
Post # 8
You’ll get over it, like Miss Chapstick said I did the same thing!! About 2 months after our wedding I started to question everything, I thought my dress looked bad in some photos, my photographer didn’t get half the shots I wanted, my guest book never got set up, my groom drank one too many rum & cokes and smacked my butt all night, I could go on and on!!
But in the end we’ve gotten tons of compliments on the wedding and my friends had a blast plus no one ever knows if the details go wrong- half the time only you do!