Post # 1
First of all, we are planning on rehearsing, and would like to do a rehearsal dinner. There are only about 8 plus the officiant in the wedding party. We have about 10-15 out of town guests who are immediate family who are definitely coming. We would probably be paying the majority of the cost.
Obviously the rehearsal would just be the wedding party.
ALSO, One of the groomsmen might not be able to make the rehearsal or rehearsal dinner. Do we still invite his spouse to the rehearsal dinner?
Post # 3
Well as far as I know the bride and groom or whoever is hosting is supposed to pay for the rehearsal dinner.
If one of the groomsmen can’t make it I wouldn’t bother inviting the spouse.
I wasn’t aware you were supposed to invite spouses to the rehearsal dinner at all but that’s fine of thats the case. We are inviting the wedding party, my parents and out of towners.
Post # 4
I think it’s really only necessary to include people participating in the rehearsal and their SOs. Inviting out of town guests is nice if you can afford it, but it’s also okay not to invite them.
Post # 5
We invited everyone who was invited to the rehearsal, including our entire bridal party (and their spouses, if applicable), our parents, DH’s children, and the pastor, reader, all singers, musicians (and all of their spous,es, if applicable.) We also invited my aunt, who traveled to our semi-destination wedding with my parents.
Post # 6
We had all the WP/minister and then our direct family (aunts, uncles, grandparents and cousins) but it also helped that DH only has one aunt who came, I had 4 aunts, 2 uncles, and 4 cousins, not like we have 20 first cousins and I also grew up super close to my cousins. I think if you can swing it $$$ wise, inviting the out of town family is a nice touch but also not required if you aren’t close to them. And I would invite the GM’s wife if she knows other people, or just send the invite addressed to them both and if she wants to come without him she can.
Post # 7
We are doing parents, grandparents, bridal party + SO’s, and out of state guests. For us, that means about 60 people. Yikes!
As for the spouse of the groomsman – you don’t need to send her a separate invite. Just send the groomsman an invite: Mr. and Mrs. Groomsman. It’s up to them how they want to rsvp. (I assume the spouse wouldn’t come by herself if the groomsman can’t go, but that’s up to her.)
Post # 8
I wouldn’t invite the spouse of the groomsman since she is not in the weding and if you are not friends with her, she might not want to go without her husband,
Our RD will include my oot family that aren’t in the weddin gparty (but the majority that are coming from oot are anyway).
Post # 9
Thanks for the feedback everyone!
Post # 10
I would love it to just be the bridal party and of course the officant because he me uncle lol but knowning my family everyone that is here for the wedding will most likely show up! without being invited its just the way our family is. lol
Post # 11
we didn’t have a formal rehearsal dinner. we just had everyone over for pizza and we invited everyone who had any involvement in the ceremony- readers, ushers, bridal party, etc. and we also included their significant others.