Post # 1
Does anyone have any wedding-related regrets when it comes to things they’ve posted on facebook?
I’m just trying to decide how much I need to contain my excitement. I don’t think that there is anyone on Facebook who isn’t being invited who might expect an invite and of course I wouldn’t post specific wedding plans. But is general information okay (where we’re getting married, etc.)? We don’t want FI’s parents coming to the wedding, but they aren’t on Facebook and I unfriended FI’s one sister prior to our engagement.
But have any of you had bad experieces? I’m curious to hear – just so I don’t slip up and say something regrettable!
Post # 3
I don’t think it is a good idea to discuss where and details like that. But I have said things such as “just got my wedding dress” or “the baker for my wedding cake just went out of business” and it has been fine.
Post # 4
I haven’t posted much about my wedding on facebook because not everyone I’m friends with is invited. When I’m discussing details, I usually just use the private message feature.
Post # 5
Ehh, I regretted posting that I was finally sitting down with FI to make the guest list. People actually started commenting and asking me, “I’m invited, right?!!”. Um….awkward, lol. Also, FI is not inviting his grandparents due to personal reasons so in order to keep things drama free, I’ve really refrained from posting much of anything on Facebook. The other day I asked about how much is too much for a DJ, but other than that, not too much anymore.
Post # 6
I have only announced my engagement on Facebook in September. I have not posted a single wedding related post since then. I prefer to keep those details to myself or verbally share them with my close friends.
Post # 7
I stopped posting about my wedding on FB when everytime I did, I’d get a call from my FMIL because FIs Aunt called her complaining about SOMETHING. My poor FMIL keeps saying “I promise I’m not a crazy MIL, but Aunt XX called…”
I just post here on the Bee instead!! 🙂
Post # 8
I would keep specifics on a need to,know basis only. As one of the PP said, I too had people assume they were invited – and all I’d posted was an engagement announcement.
I have done a coup,e general things like “going dress shopping” or something similar but I keep the details To the wedding website only
Post # 9
@PonytailKim: That is awkward!! That’s definitely not something I would want to happen.
@jny1179: Haha, that’s awful… I would hope that I don’t have any family like that (on my side or FI’s), but the one thing that I keep hearing is that when it comes to wedding planning, people will surprise you (in good and bad ways).
@Glasgowbound: Just with the engagement? Yikes. Thankfully when I announced my engagement on Facebook that didn’t happen, but I’m not sure what will happen if I post more details than that…
@bailey12: That’s good to know! I don’t think I would post anything more detailed than that. I just wasn’t sure if even saying “I’m having a DW” would cause some people to act weird! =P
@crystalrae: That’s what I need to do. Sometimes I get so excited and have such a hard time not sharing things with everyone on Facebook…. even though half of them are people from high school I don’t talk to anymore 😉
Post # 10
I made a “wedding” filter and put on it the people I’m inviting. Any time I make a wedding post that isn’t super general, I post it just to that filter. You have to be sure on your next post to change the filter setting back to all friends though.
Post # 11
I posted my dress in a album that FH can’t see.. I kinda regret that, although the picture is so blurry, you can’t really see it anyway
Post # 12
It took us about 7 months to bother putting it up on Facebook at all. Other than that, I think I’ve made one post last week, about how we finally started actually planning.
Post # 13
@distracts: That’s a smart idea!
Post # 14
@Glasgowbound: This. I just don’t post that much. I posted about dress shopping and when we picked a date.
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
The only things we’ve posted were that we got engaged, and then our photographer put some of our engagement photos up and tagged them. Other than that, I have vowed to do my best not to talk about it! I have always hated seeing other people I used to be good friends with go and get married and see allllll their posts about it, or just the crazy number of posts acquaintances would post about wedding plans. If I’m not going to be invited, I really don’t want to hear about it! So I don’t want to subject my “friends” to the same…
Post # 16
I didn’t post anything other than that we had gotten engaged, and I had at least 4 different people fishing for invites. Like you, I thought these would be people who wouldn’t assume they were getting an invite. So you may want to keep the facebook wedding chatter to a minimum or you might be surprised with people trying to invite themselves!